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Late bloomer heart broken after first short relationship

2020.07.10 15:42 EcclesKnees Late bloomer heart broken after first short relationship

Hi, I'm in need of some support following my first month long relationship with a girl. Some background, up until meeting her I was a 28 year old dateless virgin stemming from a chronic lack of self confidence and embarrassment. I'm a very sensitive and anxious person, and have always wanted someone to love and cherish. She (26) has been my next door neighbour on and off for many years but we had never spoken. She invited me outside for some drinks on her birthday, 3 days after having been dumped by her boyfriend. I ended up going inside her flat with a few of her friends near the nights end, we were rather drunk, as I was leaving with the others she asked me to stay and we ended up kissing, I woke up in her bed the next morning. We talked for many hours and had a good laugh. A few days later she posts a note through my door asking if I want to go for a walk, and we did so the next day. I'd been incredibly anxious up to this point about what had happened. She mentioned she had hangover blues and I said I had too. I said I had to be honest with her and I said I hadn't kissed anyone since I was a teenager. She was shocked because I didn't seem like that, and she was very non-judgemental. That night she came to mine and we did a zoom quiz with my friends, she stayed the night, we kissed, we said let's take it slow.
From there we were hanging out daily, I turned 29, we were talking all the time, we kissed, we held hands, we cuddled, went on walks, sat in the sun, held each other, we made plans for the future, shared our mental health with each other. We had sex, she took it so slow with me, made sure I was comfortable and didn't pressure me. We got closer, she would message how much she fancies me, that she's really fond of me. I felt like the stars had aligned. Of all the times for me to meet someone and lose my virginity it was in lockdown. And she's so beautiful in every way, we got along so well, would laugh at and with each other, matched interests and are both creatives, it felt so.. magical. She wondered how I was ever her first, that I'm handsome and likeable.
The more attached I got, the more anxious I became, I was desperate for it to continue. After a sleepless night at hers where I was panicking that I was going to ruin it, I went back to my place where I slipped into an anxious mess, she messaged asking how I was, I asked her to come round. She asked what I was worried about, I said I was worried the anxiety and insecurity I was trying to overcome was clouding the real me, that she wasn't seeing my best side and that I was worried I was going to push her away. I told her I liked her for so many reasons and I really wanted us to work out. She said she hadn't been her best either, that we'd rushed into it, that we'd been spending lots of time together and we probably need to give each other space. She said she thought I was great but we should go back to dating and dial things back. I felt relieved after this, she could have walked away but she seemed like she wanted to continue things, just at a slower pace.
However following this discussion her attraction to me seemed to fade, we spent less time talking and seeing each other, and when we did, I was initiating everything, kissing, holding hands, suggesting things to do. I kept looking for validation by trying to get passionate kisses out her again, but it felt so one sided. My anxiety and negative thoughts were through the roof, I was hurting already so much thinking I'd lost her. I took her for a picnic which went great I thought, we had fun. Towards the end of the night she said she needed space, that she was being a bit weird and that we rushed Into it so soon after her previous boyfriend, but said we'd be back to where we were at some point. I felt great thinking all I had to do was respect her space and back off for a bit. I didn't hear from her for 5 days, we bumped into each other and had a strained and awkward conversation where I weakly asked when we could next hang out to which she did not seem interested in. I left it 9 more days with no contact.
My friend pushed me to get on tinder to build my confidence up, I entertained his idea without any actual intent, and ended up seeing her on there with recent pictures. I was heartbroken, devastated, hurt beyond words. I decided I had to talk to her, the next day I asked if we could talk. I said I felt like I'd been left hanging, that I didn't fully understand what giving space meant, that I'd found it hard having no contact with her, and that I have feelings for her. She said she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, that she needs space, that she'd get weird and unpleasant if she rushed into one now so soon after her breakup, and that she does have feelings for me. I brought up Tinder and said you're obviously entitled to be on there and that we weren't in a relationship but I was crushed and hurt knowing that she'd be with other men. She said she wanted the option and to fulfill her high sex drive without getting attached to people. She said she really wants us to be to friends and to just hang out and see where we go from there, that she wasn't promising anything nor ruling out us being a thing. I said I would not wait for her as its unfair on both of us. She thought we were really exciting and we had a great time but had to put the breaks on or I'd get hurt. We laughed about the fun we had, I left and thanked her for being honest and having that talk with me.
Now I am a heart broken mess. I was so excited about our potential future together, all the things we would do. She was my ideal partner and I don't think that's coming from her being my first. Everything about her is amazing and I feel like I've lost an absolute gem of an opportunity to develop and grow with someone. I can't stop thinking about all the mistakes I made, what I shouldn't have done or said. I keep holding onto that tiny thread of hope that we can be more than friends. I dread having to be friends with her with these feelings I can't let go of. I'm terrified of how ill feel when I see her with another man. I fear hearing or seeing her which I often do since we live next door to each other, what a terrible situation. I miss being close and intimate with her so much, I was so happy with her.
My mistakes that I've become aware of were that I was too needy, overbearing, over invested, too open and honest about how I felt about how I was feeling, too predictable, too open about how insecure I was. I put her on a pedestal, I sacrificed too much of myself for her, I needed her affection to validate me. I didn't play it cool enough, I didn't give her enough space. I should have known that I was a rebound, 3 days after her ex ended things with her.
Deep down, I know we wouldn't have lasted, she's far more developed than I am, has an exceedingly more interesting and busy life than me, is very sexually experienced and has needs that I can't fulfill. There are parts to her that I did struggle to accept, such as her mostly being friends with other men which drove my insecurity mad. I just wish that I was more like her or more like the the person she would want to be with.
I don't know what to do or how to get over this, I'm such a late bloomer, I'm so scared of having to get out there and find someone Instead of it just presenting itself to me. How can I possibly get over the first woman I've been with who was also the most beautiful, kind, honest and fun person I've known? I want so much for her to stay in my life, I see so much value in at least being her friend but it will kill me if I still have such strong feelings for her, I don't know what to do. The whole experience was like a movie or book, it was too good to be true, it was so exciting, full of fun drama, we got along so well and now it's over, I don't know how to cope or move on or what my next steps should be.
Thank you for reading this far if you have, I just needed to get this out and get some support, I'm broken.
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2020.07.10 15:27 EcclesKnees Late bloomer heart broken after first short relationship

Hi, I'm in need of some support following my first month long relationship with a girl. Some background, up until meeting her I was a 28 year old dateless virgin stemming from a chronic lack of self confidence and embarrassment. I'm a very sensitive and anxious person, and have always wanted someone to love and cherish. She (26) has been my next door neighbour on and off for many years but we had never spoken. She invited me outside for some drinks on her birthday, 3 days after having been dumped by her boyfriend. I ended up going inside her flat with a few of her friends near the nights end, we were rather drunk, as I was leaving with the others she asked me to stay and we ended up kissing, I woke up in her bed the next morning. We talked for many hours and had a good laugh. A few days later she posts a note through my door asking if I want to go for a walk, and we did so the next day. I'd been incredibly anxious up to this point about what had happened. She mentioned she had hangover blues and I said I had too. I said I had to be honest with her and I said I hadn't kissed anyone since I was a teenager. She was shocked because I didn't seem like that, and she was very non-judgemental. That night she came to mine and we did a zoom quiz with my friends, she stayed the night, we kissed, we said let's take it slow.
From there we were hanging out daily, I turned 29, we were talking all the time, we kissed, we held hands, we cuddled, went on walks, sat in the sun, held each other, we made plans for the future, shared our mental health with each other. We had sex, she took it so slow with me, made sure I was comfortable and didn't pressure me. We got closer, she would message how much she fancies me, that she's really fond of me. I felt like the stars had aligned. Of all the times for me to meet someone and lose my virginity it was in lockdown. And she's so beautiful in every way, we got along so well, would laugh at and with each other, matched interests and are both creatives, it felt so.. magical. She wondered how I was ever her first, that I'm handsome and likeable.
The more attached I got, the more anxious I became, I was desperate for it to continue. After a sleepless night at hers where I was panicking that I was going to ruin it, I went back to my place where I slipped into an anxious mess, she messaged asking how I was, I asked her to come round. She asked what I was worried about, I said I was worried the anxiety and insecurity I was trying to overcome was clouding the real me, that she wasn't seeing my best side and that I was worried I was going to push her away. I told her I liked her for so many reasons and I really wanted us to work out. She said she hadn't been her best either, that we'd rushed into it, that we'd been spending lots of time together and we probably need to give each other space. She said she thought I was great but we should go back to dating and dial things back. I felt relieved after this, she could have walked away but she seemed like she wanted to continue things, just at a slower pace.
However following this discussion her attraction to me seemed to fade, we spent less time talking and seeing each other, and when we did, I was initiating everything, kissing, holding hands, suggesting things to do. I kept looking for validation by trying to get passionate kisses out her again, but it felt so one sided. My anxiety and negative thoughts were through the roof, I was hurting already so much thinking I'd lost her. I took her for a picnic which went great I thought, we had fun. Towards the end of the night she said she needed space, that she was being a bit weird and that we rushed Into it so soon after her previous boyfriend, but said we'd be back to where we were at some point. I felt great thinking all I had to do was respect her space and back off for a bit. I didn't hear from her for 5 days, we bumped into each other and had a strained and awkward conversation where I weakly asked when we could next hang out to which she did not seem interested in. I left it 9 more days with no contact.
My friend pushed me to get on tinder to build my confidence up, I entertained his idea without any actual intent, and ended up seeing her on there with recent pictures. I was heartbroken, devastated, hurt beyond words. I decided I had to talk to her, the next day I asked if we could talk. I said I felt like I'd been left hanging, that I didn't fully understand what giving space meant, that I'd found it hard having no contact with her, and that I have feelings for her. She said she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, that she needs space, that she'd get weird and unpleasant if she rushed into one now so soon after her breakup, and that she does have feelings for me. I brought up Tinder and said you're obviously entitled to be on there and that we weren't in a relationship but I was crushed and hurt knowing that she'd be with other men. She said she wanted the option and to fulfill her high sex drive without getting attached to people. She said she really wants us to be to friends and to just hang out and see where we go from there, that she wasn't promising anything nor ruling out us being a thing. I said I would not wait for her as its unfair on both of us. She thought we were really exciting and we had a great time but had to put the breaks on or I'd get hurt. We laughed about the fun we had, I left and thanked her for being honest and having that talk with me.
Now I am a heart broken mess. I was so excited about our potential future together, all the things we would do. She was my ideal partner and I don't think that's coming from her being my first. Everything about her is amazing and I feel like I've lost an absolute gem of an opportunity to develop and grow with someone. I can't stop thinking about all the mistakes I made, what I shouldn't have done or said. I keep holding onto that tiny thread of hope that we can be more than friends. I dread having to be friends with her with these feelings I can't let go of. I'm terrified of how ill feel when I see her with another man. I fear hearing or seeing her which I often do since we live next door to each other, what a terrible situation. I miss being close and intimate with her so much, I was so happy with her.
My mistakes that I've become aware of were that I was too needy, overbearing, over invested, too open and honest about how I felt about how I was feeling, too predictable, too open about how insecure I was. I put her on a pedestal, I sacrificed too much of myself for her, I needed her affection to validate me. I didn't play it cool enough, I didn't give her enough space. I should have known that I was a rebound, 3 days after her ex ended things with her.
Deep down, I know we wouldn't have lasted, she's far more developed than I am, has an exceedingly more interesting and busy life than me, is very sexually experienced and has needs that I can't fulfill. There are parts to her that I did struggle to accept, such as her mostly being friends with other men which drove my insecurity mad. I just wish that I was more like her or more like the the person she would want to be with.
I don't know what to do or how to get over this, I'm such a late bloomer, I'm so scared of having to get out there and find someone Instead of it just presenting itself to me. How can I possibly get over the first woman I've been with who was also the most beautiful, kind, honest and fun person I've known? I want so much for her to stay in my life, I see so much value in at least being her friend but it will kill me if I still have such strong feelings for her, I don't know what to do. The whole experience was like a movie or book, it was too good to be true, it was so exciting, full of fun drama, we got along so well and now it's over, I don't know how to cope or move on or what my next steps should be.
Thank you for reading this far if you have, I just needed to get this out and get some support, I'm broken.
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2020.07.10 07:29 im_phoebe Bf and u took a personality test and he came out as narcissist and told me few things, now I'm confused and need a third party perspective.

I posted this on another sub and people directed me here. I'm sorry for long post, on cell and english is not my 1st language but help me.
So I was telling my(26f) bf(31M) that maybe he is a narcissist( because he think he is the best), we took a online quiz,(I don't believe in authenticity of such quizzes, it was a elaborate one with normal situation given 12-15 being average, narcissist are over 20.) He got 25 and I got 12.
I was shocked to see some of his reply, how he thinks he is superior to other people and how he can manipulate people.
So I asked him he said he never thought he could be a narcissist but then told me how many kings and leaders are narcissist.
He said how it is a power being a narcissist, that he knows he can manipulate me but would never do it.how he never loved somone, he said when he was a child he used to love his mother but now he doesn't think he loves love anyone. (According to him loving someone means you can die for someone)
How he never cry and can detach himself from other, I asked him if he ever felt empathy he said yes if I see someone in heartache he feel the bad for few houre or even a day.
he thinks he is superior than 90 percent guys and he persuade me because I m better than other girls he met. And when I said I choose him because we are compatible and it has little to nothing to do with his intellectual ability and intelligence, he felt little bad, when I said I don't think I'm better than anyone he said you are more humble than I expected.
It was all very strange.we have been dating for over 4 month and he never disrespected me once, maybe if I said something hurtful he just went quite and then talk to me rationally. He is quite understanding and never pushed my boundaries.he is little full of himself and think he is right but if I explain something to him he understands it and want to work on it. And if I say something makes me uncomfortable he make sure he won't repeat those things. And I really like this guy, I never connect to someone like this before.
He only had one serious relationship prior to me in his early 20s, I asked him why they broke up it was mutual and nothing bizzare. After that he only had fwbs and hookups, he told me I'm his 2nd gf. He saud he only said I love you to one person in his past and he told me he loved me once he was drunk. I asked him if he ever wanted a relationship in all those years he said sometimes he miss being In Relationship but he just brush off those feelings.
I asked him if he wanted to go in therapy he brushed it off at first but when I get quitter over the discussion he said okay I'll go and see a therapist, Which I think is not possible right now because of covid situation and place we live does not give much importance to mental health so I don't know if any clinic or hospital is there for such thing.
I don't know what to do. Could somebody explain all this to me
Tl;dr - bf is a narcissist but is very understanding and respectful to me .
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2020.07.10 05:03 im_phoebe Bf and I took a personality test and he comes out as narcissist. We discussed and now I'm confused and need 3rd person's perspective.

I'm sorry for long post, on cell and english is not my 1st language but help me. So I was telling my(26f) bf(31M) that maybe he is a narcissist( because he think he is the best), we took a online quiz,(I don't believe in authenticity of such quizzes, it was a elaborate one with normal situation given 12-15 being average, narcissist are over 20.) He got 25 and I got 12.
I was shocked to see some of his reply, how he thinks he is superior to other people and how he can manipulate people.
So I asked him he said he never thought he could be a narcissist but then told me how many kings and leaders are narcissist.
He said how it is a power being a narcissist, that he knows he can manipulate me but would never do it.how he never loved somone, he said when he was a child he used to love his mother but now he doesn't think he loves love anyone. (According to him loving someone means you can die for someone)
How he never cry and can detach himself from other, I asked him if he ever felt empathy he said yes if I see someone in heartache he feel the bad for few houre or even a day.
he thinks he is superior than 90 percent guys and he persuade me because I m better than other girls he met. And when I said I choose him because we are compatible and it has little to nothing to do with his intellectual ability and intelligence, he felt little bad, when I said I don't think I'm better than anyone he said you are more humble than I expected.
It was all very strange.we have been dating for over 4 month and he never disrespected me once, maybe if I said something hurtful he just went quite and then talk to me rationally. He is quite understanding and never pushed my boundaries.he is little full of himself and think he is right but if I explain something to him he understands it and want to work on it. And if I say something makes me uncomfortable he make sure he won't repeat those things. And I really like this guy, I never connect to someone like this before.
He only had one serious relationship prior to me in his early 20s, I asked him why they broke up it was mutual and nothing bizzare. After that he only had fwbs and hookups, he told me I'm his 2nd gf. He saud he only said I love you to one person in his past and he told me he loved me once he was drunk. I asked him if he ever wanted a relationship in all those years he said sometimes he miss being In Relationship but he just brush off those feelings.
I asked him if he wanted to go in therapy he brushed it off at first but when I get quitter over the discussion he said okay I'll go and see a therapist, Which I think is not possible right now because of covid situation and place we live does not give much importance to mental health so I don't know if any clinic or hospital is there for such thing.
I don't know what to do. Could somebody explain all this to me
Tl;dr - bf is a narcissist but is very understanding and respectful to me .
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2020.07.09 13:05 TicketToLichdom I Submit Myself to Trial

Hi all, I found this subreddit about a month ago and have been drafting up a trial response ever since like some sort of madman. I'm sorry it's a bit long and I am certain it isn't perfect, but I just felt like it was time. Thanks so much for your time and for being so awesome.
What can you tell us about your goals and dreams? What motivates you to pursue them, how exactly do you do it? What keeps you breathing?
I am, first and foremost, an idealist. I wholeheartedly believe that it is our job to leave the world in a better place than where we found it. I am an artist (I got my degree with a focus in sculpture) both because I have always felt drawn to the act of creating and because I feel like the path to a better tomorrow requires open communication and embracing empathy, and that art is a vehicle for communicating ideas. I like art because there are few "right" answers in it, and when working conceptually I could focus primarily on working through ideas and combining objects, spaces and sounds that feel like they go together or resonate at the same frequency. I think all things are connected, and that we have a responsibility to examine how we view the world around us and remove false assumptions in order to grow and develop as a collective.
The only issue with being motivated by idealism is that it is way too abstract, and without external validation it becomes easy to lose momentum. I guess you could summarize that to being motivated by the desire to acquire new knowledge and skills, improve myself and the world around me, and the acknowledgement and approval of my peers.
Tell us a little bit about yourself and your personality. How do you act, and what is important to you aside from your goals?
I am a bit of a perfectionist, to the point of being paralyzed by fears of failure far before I take action. I look to the future or the past far too much and have difficulty living in the moment. This led me to pursue art because it was a space where I could engage myself intellectually and conceptually without having to worry too much about being perfect. I generally prefer to wait and watch to make sure I have the best chance of success, which can be a double-edged sword because sometimes I really need to act in the moment. I like change, but I only like it when I am in control of it and I have been informed that sometimes that doesn't actually count as change. I like to cause a bit of chaos every once in a while, usually through little pranks and absurd behavior. I like to feel a bit unpredictable and confusing, mostly because I like feeling eccentric. I am rather shy and socially anxious, and use the eccentricity as a filter to only let in people who are genuinely interested. I also cope with this anxiety by trying to know as much as possible, because intellect and knowledge is an invaluable resource. I have developed a quirk from this in that when I talk I want to be as precise as possible and use the rather expansive vocabulary I have acquired over the years to construct statements that are all quality over quantity. However, this often backfires as what I say comes out sounding more like cryptic prophecy than an actual statement. Think Twin Peaks dialogue and you basically have it. As stated previously, I am really introverted and something of a hermit so while I am generally well-liked I tend to keep most people at arm's length, but when I do bring someone into my circle of trust I am fiercely loyal to them and expect a similar level of loyalty in return. Betrayal of trust is one of the worst sins possible in my opinion. A very close friend of mine once expressed interest and alarm at the fact that people "just tell me things," or that people trust me with their personal struggles with absolutely no prompting and occasionally seemingly at random. I often act as a sympathetic ear to my friends and other individuals, and am always willing to lend a shoulder to cry on and what advice I can come up with, or even just my perspective on a situation. I also feel like it is my responsibility to take this information and catalogue it for later use. I like to construct formulae for future interactions with the world. On one hand I care a lot about people living up to their potential and want to gently and subtly push and occasionally manipulate them toward growth. On the other, a more unhealthy part of my mind fully expects them to betray me in the future and having all this information at my disposal provides me a tool for revenge (I have never acted on this impulse). I suppose the last thing is that with that desire to create better social formulae and the desire to understand people, I have a tendency to dissect them as an individual, occasionally as interact with them. This usually manifests in them stating that the feel some sort of way and don't know why, to which I respond by breaking down their personality and current struggles, often with alarming and overwhelming accuracy. I enjoy this a great deal, possibly because it adds onto the eccentric mystic vibe I'm going for.
What are you looking for in a partner or friend? Which is to say, what aspects of humanity do you value the most about humanity?
I want drive, intelligence and potential from any individual I would form any kind of bond with, as well as the wherewithal and fortitude to call me out on my BS. I want to surround myself with people that I feel have the most potential for growth and to impact the world around them in both romantic and platonic relationships. Beyond that, I most value humanity’s ability to come together in times of crisis and work to fix the problems that we struggle with (even if it is quite frequently the case that we were the cause of said problems in the first place). Our capacity to generate concepts fascinates me, and I often fall into rabbit holes of exploring and uncovering the origins of the ideas and techniques we develop and grow.
You are granted a super-human ability, what would you choose and how would you wield that power?
So I have problems with the question “If you could have any super-power, what would it be?” because it is always used as more of an icebreaker than a genuine question about someone's personality. Years ago I thought the more interesting question was “If you could give your friends any super-powers, what would they be” because this way you are developing an understanding of the individual within the framework of a larger system: how they perceive themselves, their friends and oftentimes yourself.
Anyway, I got the absolutely wonderful response of the ability to control an individual’s level of doubt in regards to myself in my initial trial run of the question and knew my answer to this question for the rest of my life. The possibilities are endless, from helping someone to believe they can change for the better and make a difference in the world to convincing someone that they can do you no harm and that taking action against you is futile in order to resolve a violent situation. I like that bit of psychic Batman there, though it does come with a great deal of potential for abuse as well. But, great power and great responsibility, you know.
What is something that people do or value that you have a hard time comprehending why?
I don’t see why people indulge structures that are not beneficial to themselves or others. I think that this leads to a great deal of stagnation, and that stagnation leads to corruption. I don't see why people continue to allow this corruption to occur and to continue when there are better ways to do things.
Before the trial is finished and our conclusions are given, here is an opportunity to say anything we would not have ever think of asking, something to better conceal your attitudes and idiosyncrasies. Please, make it entertaining.
As far as other personality things go I am an INFJ with enneagram 5w6. I have had multiple friends jokingly say that they expected me to either summon demons or end the world out of sheer curiosity and desire to know if I could do it. Part of me really wants to run a game of D&D in which the plot revolves entirely around this weird joke.
Also, I got into this whole thing because years ago during the second Ravnica block a friend of mine started running a Pathfinder game set in Ravnica, and since I knew nothing about the lore they got me to take the guild quiz that was up at that time. I got Golgari Swarm, and that started me on the path that lead me here. I have taken the more recent version of the quiz when the third block came out and got Dimir. I once asked a friend who has played the game since he was a kid what kind of Planeswalker I would be and he said I would be a colorless artifact observer (I almost cried over how nice this was). This is mostly here to add more nuance to my previous statements and to help your accuracy, though I don't know if it really helps.
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2020.07.09 05:01 throwaway09876712312 Am I undeserving of love?

I'm 18F and I haven't hung out with my friends for a long time. However, some past trauma has come back to me (because the lack of sleep, maybe) and I have come to remember all of the things my previous friend did to me.
The first shitty thing that she did to me was tell my boyfriend at the time (now ex) that I had cheated on him. I had only cheated on my ex because he was so horrible to me. He kept a lot of pictures of half-naked girls on his phone and insisted to me that it wasn't a big deal and that I shouldn't think about it that much. The girls on the photos were clearly more attractive than me and had better bodies than me so it made me feel really insecure. This was an occurring problem in our relationship and I had confronted him many times about it but he just said that I was overreacting and that it was my fault because I was so insecure.
Whenever we would hang out together, I could see his head turn and he would stare every so often whenever a pretty girl would walk past. He would do this right in front of me. This absolutely crushed me. He would also mention names of other girls (that were in our school) that were attractive and slightly hinted on how beautiful they are, how they would dressed and that I too should be like them and dress like them. It all built up. When my friend would invite us to go out and drink, I would find myself flirting with other guys and I felt guilty but somehow, it made me feel better. I felt better that I was getting back at him. I treated him with nothing but love in the beginning of our relationship but he barely repaid it.
Going back to my "ex-friend," one day at school, she was getting ready for her basketball practice and she had asked me to take pictures of the pages of the book for a quiz because she wouldn't be able to do so herself since she would have practice. I refused her favor, because it would take me a long time to take a picture of the pages (she was asking me to take a picture of 15 or so pages). Another reason for me refusing her favor is because I had to be at church for choir practice later that night too.
But, I still managed to take the time and send her the pictures she asked for, but it was too late. I was at church at this time and before it was time for the choir practice, my boyfriend had been calling me non-stop. Then I knew. I knew that my friend had told him all about the times that I had cheated on him. She even went as far as to list the names of the guys that I fooled around with.
Cheating on him made me feel awful, I always regretted it in the morning but it felt like I had turned into someone that I didn't know. I had turned into someone who I hated because of the relationship I had with my boyfriend.
A few months pass, but we're still together, him on his old habits and me continuing to go out drinking with my friends and fooling around. I thought it would have felt pointless to change into someone who would make him happy because he hated it every time I would go out with my friends to drink but I thought to myself, why should I stop having fun with my friends? He's still going to continue to be foul to me. I forgot to mention the part where he has 5,000 friends on Facebook, and 95% are girls he doesn't know on Facebook but found them pretty so he added them as a friend. When I came over to their house, her sister even told me that he had a habit of scrolling through his friends list, and unfriending those he did not find attractive so that he could make room for more girls that he could add which he found more attractive. I'd like to clarify that I do not have any of the habits that he has, I barely check Facebook because Netflix and Youtube are the main things which consume my time if I was on my phone.
One time, I got so drunk with my friends and I drank way too much because I was so gutted about how he treated me. I asked him to pick me up and he did. I asked him to take me to a McDonalds because I was hungry but when we got there, I realized that I couldn't eat anything because my stomach hurt so much because I drank so much on an empty stomach. I couldn't eat the food that was in front of me and he just scolded me about how I'm overreacting and wasting his time because I couldn't eat any of the food. I was literally so sick that I had to run out of the McDonalds to find a nearby bush to throw up in but when I would throw up, I only threw up bile but I was still gagging even though I had nothing to throw up anymore. While I was throwing up, he just stood there and looked at me. We went back inside the McDonalds for the 2nd time but I still couldn't eat my food and we just decided for me to take the food home. For the second time, I needed to throw up, and when I did, I threw up water because I had drank some earlier. When I was throwing up, he pulled out his phone and took a video of him. I told him to stop but I couldn't reach him since my body was still focused on throwing up. This whole thing sobered me up and I just went home by myself while he went his separate way.
It took me a year of being with him to break up with him and we have seen each other in months now.
Going back to my ex-friend, I recently asked her to apologize for one instance that she has not yet apologized for and that was the time when she was going to meet a guy for the first time and they had planned to hook up at his place. I waited with my friend until the guy arrived and my friend was using my phone because hers was dead. We stood there for a good 10 minutes until the guy who was standing behind us, finally came up to us and picked her up. I was upset by the fact that the guy was just standing there without saying hi to us and it took him a while to do so. I wasn't thinking much, but I said something insulting to the guy and they both left.
The next day, I asked her how their hook-up went and she expressed her anger about the way I treated the guy he met. She was angry about how I treated her one-night stand. I have known this girl for 2 years but she chose to defend this guy who she just met, hooked up with her, and didn't talk to her again. We were in class this time and the argument got so heated that she blurted out, while her voice was somewhat loud, that I shouldn't go around insulting the guy that she hooked up with because I have a lot of sex with my boyfriend. I was shamed beyond comprehension because classmates around us definitely heard us since they turned around to face us when she blurted that out. I didn't say anything after that and just gathered my things and cut class for the rest of the day. That was only the first class of the day though.
Now I have no one, because I feel like other friends in our group would agree with her. No boyfriend and I just finished high school and am not planning on attending college for at least 2 years or so.
Is this all my fault? Has everything that has happened to me because of the way I treated other people?
Note: If you read this far, thank you so much. It really means a lot.
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2020.07.09 04:44 throwaway09876712312 Am I deserving of love?

I'm 18F and I haven't hung out with my friends for a long time. However, some past trauma has come back to me (because the lack of sleep, maybe) and I have come to remember all of the things my previous friend did to me.
The first shitty thing that she did to me was tell my boyfriend at the time (now ex) that I had cheated on him. I had only cheated on my ex because he was so horrible to me. He kept a lot of pictures of half-naked girls on his phone and insisted to me that it wasn't a big deal and that I shouldn't think about it that much. The girls on the photos were clearly more attractive than me and had better bodies than me so it made me feel really insecure. This was an occurring problem in our relationship and I had confronted him many times about it but he just said that I was overreacting and that it was my fault because I was so insecure.
Whenever we would hang out together, I could see his head turn and he would stare every so often whenever a pretty girl would walk past. He would do this right in front of me. This absolutely crushed me. He would also mention names of other girls (that were in our school) that were attractive and slightly hinted on how beautiful they are, how they would dressed and that I too should be like them and dress like them. It all built up. When my friend would invite us to go out and drink, I would find myself flirting with other guys and I felt guilty but somehow, it made me feel better. I felt better that I was getting back at him. I treated him with nothing but love in the beginning of our relationship but he barely repaid it.
Going back to my "ex-friend," one day at school, she was getting ready for her basketball practice and she had asked me to take pictures of the pages of the book for a quiz because she wouldn't be able to do so herself since she would have practice. I refused her favor, because it would take me a long time to take a picture of the pages (she was asking me to take a picture of 15 or so pages). Another reason for me refusing her favor is because I had to be at church for choir practice later that night too.
But, I still managed to take the time and send her the pictures she asked for, but it was too late. I was at church at this time and before it was time for the choir practice, my boyfriend had been calling me non-stop. Then I knew. I knew that my friend had told him all about the times that I had cheated on him. She even went as far as to list the names of the guys that I fooled around with.
Cheating on him made me feel awful, I always regretted it in the morning but it felt like I had turned into someone that I didn't know. I had turned into someone who I hated because of the relationship I had with my boyfriend.
A few months pass, but we're still together, him on his old habits and me continuing to go out drinking with my friends and fooling around. I thought it would have felt pointless to change into someone who would make him happy because he hated it every time I would go out with my friends to drink but I thought to myself, why should I stop having fun with my friends? He's still going to continue to be foul to me. I forgot to mention the part where he has 5,000 friends on Facebook, and 95% are girls he doesn't know on Facebook but found them pretty so he added them as a friend. When I came over to their house, her sister even told me that he had a habit of scrolling through his friends list, and unfriending those he did not find attractive so that he could make room for more girls that he could add which he found more attractive. I'd like to clarify that I do not have any of the habits that he has, I barely check Facebook because Netflix and Youtube are the main things which consume my time if I was on my phone.
One time, I got so drunk with my friends and I drank way too much because I was so gutted about how he treated me. I asked him to pick me up and he did. I asked him to take me to a McDonalds because I was hungry but when we got there, I realized that I couldn't eat anything because my stomach hurt so much because I drank so much on an empty stomach. I couldn't eat the food that was in front of me and he just scolded me about how I'm overreacting and wasting his time because I couldn't eat any of the food. I was literally so sick that I had to run out of the McDonalds to find a nearby bush to throw up in but when I would throw up, I only threw up bile but I was still gagging even though I had nothing to throw up anymore. While I was throwing up, he just stood there and looked at me. We went back inside the McDonalds for the 2nd time but I still couldn't eat my food and we just decided for me to take the food home. For the second time, I needed to throw up, and when I did, I threw up water because I had drank some earlier. When I was throwing up, he pulled out his phone and took a video of him. I told him to stop but I couldn't reach him since my body was still focused on throwing up. This whole thing sobered me up and I just went home by myself while he went his separate way.
It took me a year of being with him to break up with him and we have seen each other in months now.
Going back to my ex-friend, I recently asked her to apologize for one instance that she has not yet apologized for and that was the time when she was going to meet a guy for the first time and they had planned to hook up at his place. I waited with my friend until the guy arrived and my friend was using my phone because hers was dead. We stood there for a good 10 minutes until the guy who was standing behind us, finally came up to us and picked her up. I was upset by the fact that the guy was just standing there without saying hi to us and it took him a while to do so. I wasn't thinking much, but I said something insulting to the guy and they both left.
The next day, I asked her how their hook-up went and she expressed her anger about the way I treated the guy he met. She was angry about how I treated her one-night stand. I have known this girl for 2 years but she chose to defend this guy who she just met, hooked up with her, and didn't talk to her again. We were in class this time and the argument got so heated that she blurted out, while her voice was somewhat loud, that I shouldn't go around insulting the guy that she hooked up with because I have a lot of sex with my boyfriend. I was shamed beyond comprehension because classmates around us definitely heard us since they turned around to face us when she blurted that out. I didn't say anything after that and just gathered my things and cut class for the rest of the day. That was only the first class of the day though.
Now I have no one, because I feel like other friends in our group would agree with her. No boyfriend and I just finished high school and am not planning on attending college for at least 2 years or so.
Is this all my fault? Has everything that has happened to me because of the way I treated other people?
Note: If you read this far, thank you so much, it really means a lot.
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2020.07.08 03:44 kau_234 Chance a conventional Indian male applying to an unconventional major

Given the current situation for the upcoming cycle, I know that stats and a decent GPA can only carry me so far. I'm a rising senior looking for an honest evaluation of how good my chance is at T20s.
Demographics: Indian male, competitive private school in California, upper middle class
Hooks (URM, first generation, legacy, athlete, etc.): none
Intended Major(s): Environmental engineering where available, civil engineering otherwise (also some other weird stuff for a select few - I'll specify which those are in my school list)
ACT/SAT/SAT II: 1590 SAT (800 math/790 EBRW), 1500 PSAT (760 math/740 english), 800 Math Level II, 800 Biology E, 800 Chemistry, no ACT
UW/W GPA and Rank: 3.96 UW, 4.63 W (5 A-, no Bs)
Coursework: Max number of weighted courses possible (if there was a honors/AP course in any subject, I took it) - AP European History (5), AP Calculus AB (5), AP Psych (no score yet), AP English Lang (no score yet), AP Calculus BC (no score yet), AP US History (no score yet), AP Spanish Lang (no score yet), taking AP Physics C, AP Stats, AP Gov, AP Macro, AP English Lit, AP Computer Science Principles as a senior; also took Python at CC last summer and currently taking multivariable calculus and Java at CC, planning to take environmental studies or intro to clean energy at CC concurrently during 1st sem senior year since I have a free period
Awards/Recognitions:
- Recipient of a city-level community service award (1 student selected every year)
- Winner of a national individual Quiz Bowl tournament focusing on science (think Quiz Bowl-style questions with Science Bowl content)
- Awards from science fairs (in high school): 2nd award in category at county fair in 2020, one of 20 semifinalists for an international science fair for clean/sustainable technology in 2019
- Published a paper (first author) detailing research on alternative energy technology, unfortunately not published in a good journal, as I was inexperienced and did not have anybody guiding me on selecting a place to publish
- not sure where to put this, so I'll put it here: contestant on a national syndicated trivia game show
Extracurriculars:
- Founder of a youth-run organization receiving grant funding and support from local energy utilities to conduct programs focusing on improving climate literacy among youth (presentations, assemblies, science/art competitions, etc.); organization has grown to contain members from 10 different schools, and has received national-level prizes and recognition
- Founder of a nonprofit organization aiming to teach fundamental STEM concepts to children in a fun and interactive manner
- President of a youth-operated think tank that develops policies that aim to improve mental health, sustainability, and the living conditions of elders in our community
- Research intern at a public university, but not on track to publish anything (before RD, at least) working on developing a reliable system to track the effectiveness of climate education by gauging student attitudes and tangible reductions in pollution and resource consumption
- Intern and youth advisory board member for a company making environmentally-oriented science textbooks for use in middle schools
- Attended COSMOS during summer 2018 (cluster was relatively related to my major)
Essays: 6/10 - my essays are really hit-or-miss, and they just don't have the "quirky," creative style that many others do. Trying to improve on this and I know I have time to do so, but I don't think my essays meet the mark right now.
LORS:
AP English Lang teacher: 8.5/10 - I'm pretty sure my teacher liked me, I did pretty well in the class, and I got to showcase my passion for environmentalism a lot in her class (I did a rhetorical analysis of a speech by Greta Thunberg for one assignment) + she knows what's up with writing good rec letters
AP Calculus BC teacher: 5/10 - I barely survived Calc BC (kept bombing the first test of the semester and had to climb back up), and my teacher doesn't know me super well. We've talked on occasion and he's somewhat familiar with my interests, but there's honestly not really much for him to work with as of now. I have him for Physics C next year and want to demonstrate my interest in science/engineering in that setting, but he probably will have written my rec letter over the summer, so my hopes aren't high here.
Vice mayor of my city: 8/10 - I have a close working relationship with the vice mayor of my city, and she supervises the think tank I'm the president of. She's also very familiar with many of the organizations I am a part of.
I have a few other options as well, but didn't want to list them all.
Schools (if I don't specify major or deadline, assume civil/environmental engineering and RD):
Arizona State University - Tempe Computer science
Boston University Environmental science
California Institute of Technology EA, materials science (no CivE or EnvE here)
UC Berkeley MET (Civil Eng + Business track)
UC Irvine Data science
UCLA Civil engineering
UC San Diego Data science
UC Santa Cruz Computer science
Columbia University
Cornell University
Georgia Institute of Technology EA
Massachusetts Institute of Technology EA
New York University
Northeastern University EA
University of Pennsylvania
Princeton University
University of Southern California Scholarship deadline
Stanford University
Yale University
UT Austin
Claremont McKenna Environment, economics, and politics (EEP) - I liked the school and the program, so decided I might as well
As you can see, I don't have an ED school. I'm considering ED to UPenn M&T, but I'm not certain I'd be content with that (plus, if I don't get into M&T but am admitted to either Wharton or engineering, I think I still have to go, which I don't want to do). Also, I want to EA to the maximum amount of schools possible - please let me know if I've missed any schools where I can EA (not REA, as I want to EA to as many schools as possible).
Any advice and tips would be much appreciated :)
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2020.07.06 23:45 ToadBrigade5 Ranking every PM Chapter/World before TOK releases: #13

Ranking every PM ChapteWorld before TOK releases: #13
Hey everyone, Toad here. If this is your first time encountering this ranking series, I strongly encourage you to start with Rank #36 as it has more information about the project itself. The placing of these chapters is entirely based on the opinions of me and fellow user u/ulk96, so please be civil.
Guess who slept in?~ Sorry everyone, I just changed the sheets on my bed yesterday and mmph, it feels heavenly. So much so that I gave myself an extra two hours of shut eye just to enjoy it more. Hope this write up isn't too late or anything, what number are we on?
I think yesterday's hint may well be the best hint I've given. It made a very unique list of possibilities after all, and while a good number guessed it, a larger number didn't. You really can't ask for more than that.
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Goombella isn't photogenic when she's in a hurry, just like I can't pick good pictures when I'm in a hurry.
Chapter 1: Castle and Dragon, Paper Mario: The Thousand Year Door
We're getting to the chapters I actually adore now. I genuinely believe this is one of the most polished "standard" chapters in Paper Mario history, and without any question the best first chapter the series has to offer (which admittedly isn't saying much). This ultimately is not because of Petalburg or Shhwonk Fortress, but those do their part with a fair amount of charm as well.
Petal Meadows as a whole really reeks of the World 1 grassland stereotype. It does mix it up with 5% more flowers than usual, but that doesn't redeem the fact that it starts on one of Mario's basic building blocks. I do believe this is more forgivable from other instances, as when you encounter Petal Meadows, you're hot off the heels of Rogueport, which from it's conception blows Mario tropes out of the water. The bigger issue is that Petal Meadows is a very linear area from the pipe, to Petalburg, to Shhwonk fortress, and back. The highly linear lay out is a major flaw in most of Thousand Year Door, admittedly, but it wasn't one that bugged me too much, at least not in this chapter when it's not clear that'd be a recurring issue. It's more justifiable here, as a journey to a fortress being played like a standard Mario level, before you go back and things open up.
Petalburg itself is a fairly inoffensive town, but it has a very nice atmosphere and a very memorable gamer Toad NPC. Some of the character designs, particularly Koopie Koo resonate with me, and it's overall a major step up from it's equivalent in the last game, the Koopa village. It also has a more interesting problem. While Koopa Village had Fuzzies stealing Koopa Shells, Petalburg is BEING RAZED BY A GIANT DRAGON. If all the dry bones in the later half of the level were Koopas that Hooktail has eaten over the last thousand years, wow, Petalburg has no right to be this cheery. However, I could buy the argument that say, one Koopa a year for the thousand year period in which Hooktail has been independent, would produce the results without harming the overall vibe of the town, so it's fine. More importantly though, the Koopas do take the threat of Hooktail seriously, and thus don't hamper the mood, and their cheery atmosphere vanishes and doesn't infringe on the tone of the castle when you get there.
Shhwonk Fortress is undeniably filler. Yes, you get an awesome Thwomp quiz, but you can't deny the location itself was thrown in as a reason to cross Petal Meadows before the castle and go through the town twice for Koops to work up his courage to join you. In the end though, that's okay, because over all, it's an enjoyable small little side outing, and every chapter needs a few obstacles to get the ball rolling. At the very least, being forced to go through this section actually allows the Chapter to develop itself, the stakes, and the partner, and in the end, that's just fine. There's a fun miniboss, a cool quiz, and no real reason to complain.
Move aside Kooper, Koops is here to show you how it's done.
Interweaving a partner into a Chapter's narrative should not be incredibly difficult. Interweaving a partner into the plot of the overall game is much more so, admittedly, and Thousand Year Door fails in that regard because Koops does cease to be relevant once the chapter ends, but he gets a genuine narrative, development, and a chance to shine and boy does he take it so much more than Mr. "Hey-can-I-have-my-shell-back-thanks-I'm-in-your-party-now" Kooper.
Koops is a shy and unassuming Koopa with relatable self confidence issues in his relationship, who lost his father to Hooktail. While these are fairly simple character traits that seem very related to each other, they ultimately create a fairly dynamic motivation. He wants his dad back if he's alive, he wants vengeance if he's not, and ultimately, he wants to prove he's capable of doing something at all. Him approaching Mario to join him on the way to Shhwonk Fortress, then backing out in nervousness is funny, but it also shows how serious his issues have become. When he realizes that he's not going to forgive himself for missing his second and only chance when Mario returns, he swallows that fear successfully in order to join the party.
The dynamic he has with his girlfriend is a lot deeper than one might expect at first glance. Koopie Koo is not just a throwaway NPC, she genuinely has her own arc in a way. As Koops' girlfriend, she's easily the more confident and well adjusted of the two, but she is trying to draw an introvert to be more confident and in a way makes Koops feel more insecure about not earning her affection. While she doesn't want him to risk himself or be in danger, she ultimately realizes that something in the relationship does need to change for Koops' sake, and that he's not going to feel comfortable unless he proves himself in some way, and allows him to go very reluctantly as she's aware she won't be able to forgive herself if this gets him hurt.
What shocks me is how casually TTYD drops this. Constantly, it goes above our expectations and says "Yeah, we're mature enough to show we understand how power imbalances might affect a relationship" or "Yeah, we're mature enough to handle how a grieving man shouldn't blame himself for the death of a loved one he had no control over". So many characters have very real issues that are delivered with both tact, and without a need to beat the player over the head. None of it ever feels forced and it just stays well written.
Depicted above is the only moment in TTYD where your partner will forcibly switch if you have someone else out when you stumble into it. It's an exceptionally solid character moment. Koops initially assumed (probably by the unique blue shoes) that this Dry Bones is his father. He asks for a few moments to compose himself, but ultimately shows that he plans to continue with Mario anyway, before he notices the note and realizes that it's not his father after all. It's a moment that is willing to show and prove Koops' resolve, as well as keep the arc ultimately about him, even as he engages in one of the best dungeons in Paper Mario History.
Okay but actually though, who here didn't say yes to the feet to see what would happen?
Before we get to Hooktail though, I want to talk about her castle, because I've hyped this up a lot. Hooktail's Castle is a shining example of how to do a Paper Mario dungeon. Not only is the pathing throughout the Castle non-linear, but there are still multiple secrets to find that go off the beaten path in creative, but non frustrating ways. Beyond that the puzzles in this dungeon, using Koops' absolutely phenominal overworld ability, probably the most clever in the series, are all incredibly fun to maneuver as well. The fights aren't frustrating, the enemy choice is sensible for the area. It's just incredibly well polished.
Beyond that, the graphics are just as great. Instead of a network of connected rooms indoors, the structure of this level actually permits for a much cooler backdrop by letting you know often where in the physical castle you are. You can constantly see the sky through broken walls and windows, and you never really feel like you're in some kind of dungeon abyss. The layout stays very realistic and clever, with everything from dungeons to towers to store rooms to parapets. I especially like the outer wall surrounding the dungeon and using the airplane to fly to the inner castle over the broken draw bridge, as well as the bridge to the main tower that overlooks the whole castle in a beautiful, zoomed out view.
Finally, we get to Hooktail herself. This is my favorite Chapter 1 boss in the series. While the 'fighting a giant dragon' trope is done before, this is the first instance of it in Mario, and to lead with such a strong and intimidating encounter in the first Chapter is a huge power move and absolutely great. The symbolism of Koops facing Hooktail down is amazing as well, and it helps that the bossfight is very well designed and dynamic. Hooktail's personality is also great, and like many other bosses who I've praised, she's a consistent threat in the chapter that is responsible for the areas problems, who the other NPCs constantly build up to. I especially like the way her weakness is handled with a sound effect badge that's otherwise useless, and the fact that you can choose not to use it for added challenge.
It's an amazing moment that captures and cap offs the opening of the game, and defeating her does provide closure to Koops' arc, as well as reuniting him with his dad in a genuinely heartwarming moment. Koops resolving to stick with you on your journey was sweet as well, and I'm glad the game took the time to give it a proper cutscene.
In the end, this chapter may have started off fairly weak, but it gives a strong first impression to the game overall, with a very dynamic encounter and putting to rest many of the complaints I had on partners from 64 by immediately showing a very well designed instance of tying a partner to the narrative. It shows how well Thousand Year Door understands the value of stakes, excitement and storytelling, and it really shows. While the chapter does lose points for the linearity of it's opening and the fact that it is still a visually simple grassland, it's still the most daring of first chapters and a solid example of both how the classic Paper Mario formula functions and how to do chapter's right, which is why it makes it this far into the list.
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2020.07.06 19:04 Crashtestdumbass_ Dreamed of a girl I was in love with

I was in my dad's old apartment during a house party. The guests included some of his adult friends and some people I knew (my dad is divorced). He was insistent on having some younger woman that was there try some cookies that he had made earlier. She wasn't into it and he wasn't getting the hint, so I took him aside and, using lots of emphasis, managed to convince him to drop the issue. When we came back everyone had left except for the aforementioned woman and a girl my age that had appeared out of nowhere. This was a real person from my life, and let me tell you that her beauty approached about as close to perfect as possible. In the real world I had been too afraid to meaningfully approach her, and, as a last resort, gave her a hand-written love letter a few months after I first saw her. She texted me back and told me how much she appreciated it but unfortunately she had gotten into a relationship in the meantime. Anyway, in the dream she seemed to be waiting for me on the couch, and, after a moment's hesitation I told her "Hey, Ashley" (not her real name). She responded and stood up, and walked over to me. There was an intense attraction and we were immediately on the same wavelength. She stammered and looked around, and told me she wanted to show me something on Pinterest (idk why Pinterest) and we hurried out of the living room into the hallway. She slid her back down the wall and sat down in a way that showed off her body very nicely. I kneeled down and she had pulled up a graphic video of someone getting throat surgery, with the doctor draining fluid from some sort of cyst. She was captivated and apparently knew what was going on because she was studying anatomy at her university. I was a little freaked out. After it ended we looked into each others' eyes for a moment and started kissing. I could feel her lips pressing into mine with vivid detail and I started to push her over as we grabbed each other. Suddenly we were in a bed and had almost no clothes on. We kept making out and caressing one another, but abruptly stopped to download something to play on a big TV in the room we were in (don't know what it was but it wasn't porn lol). We were getting it from her university's website and, en lieu of paying for it, we had to pass this quiz on random trivia. It was tailored to students from her school so she was buzzing through it, anxious to get to the end so we could continue the way we were going. My anticipation was building and my thoughts started racing, but one of the thoughts somehow identified that I was indeed dreaming, and I snapped awake. The warm feeling in my chest lingered for a while and I half-heartedly tried to go back to sleep to resume the dream but I knew I wouldn't be able to. I just sat for a while with the memory of her body, her sultry voice and smile lingering in my mind. It felt so nice but reminded me how lonely and starved for intimacy I am.
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2020.07.06 11:06 jimmythemini [NY] Best way to give all my wealth away to charity?

Hi everyone. I'm in my mid-30s and a microengineer by trade. Just over five years ago I licensed a patent to a very well-known, global consumer goods company for use in one of their product lines. The upshot is that I receive royalties of around $1.5 million per annum, and will do so until at least 2031.
Apart from using a small amount to pay-off my apartment and treat myself to a couple of overly-expensive watches, the money all goes into a managed fund which has already accrued to quite a substantial sum. I have engaged a FA and tax advisor to deal with the relevant logistics. For obvious reasons I have told the bare minimum of people about this situation – my mother, my partner, the two advisors, and the head of HR at my employer (to manage any potential conflict of interest). My professional network are aware of the licensing but I think they're too polite to quiz me on specifics.
This has all seemed like a happy accident, as the patent was essentially a bit of an afterthought arising from a university research project. This may sound odd – and I'm aware that it's a good problem to have, especially in the current environment – but there are some days that I wish I didn't have to deal with the money. I have no children, I have a job I love working across industry and academia as well as my own consultancy side-business, and my salary from these things more than covers my very frugal lifestyle and retirement savings.
For this reason, and given the strife the world is in right now, I've decided I would like to give about 95% of my windfall away to charity, mostly in the areas of environmental protection, child welfare, and research. I'd like to do this sooner rather than later so I can see some of the impact. My partner fully supports me in this decision – like me he is non-materialistic and already earns a good salary in the tech sector.
I've realised that doing this effectively will be much harder than it sounds, especially while working full-time. Ideally I need to work with someone who is objective to develop a detailed plan of desired impact, and work backwards to how and when to distribute the funds. I also need someone to help me research the NGO sector, discreetly discuss gifting with potential candidates and to undertake due diligence. I spoke to my FA about this and they basically said this was a highly unusual task given my stage in life and beyond their remit, and they couldn't think of who to refer me to.
Questions: Is there a type of specialized consultant I can look for who does this type of work? What job title should I be searching for? I've had a google and most lawyers in this space seem to deal with succession planning for deceased estates, while most philanthropy consultants seem to have prior relationships or interests with certain charities so not sure how trustworthy they will be? I don't want to randomly approach too many firms given I'm trying to be as discreet as possible about my wealth. Is it maybe feasible for me to just carry this out on my own?
TL;DR: High net-worth individual; looking to give it all away to charity while continuing to work full-time. Not sure if or who I need to engage to help me with next steps.
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2020.07.05 03:04 AugmentedJustice Just finished the Greed Island Arc and holy crap...what a show.

I don't know why I decided to post my thoughts now considering I loved all previous arcs, especially my favorites, Heaven's Arena and Yorknew City but I suppose I wanted to give the show a bit more time and the half way point seems appropriate. This is more of an appreciation post really. Likely gana be all over the place and long as hell.
TLDR version. The show is pretty f**king amazing. I love it. Now onto the next arc. The end.
Thanks! Osu!
Ok.
Hunter exam arc
The hunter exam is definitely imo one of the best openning arcs ever, and when it REALLY starts, it just pulls you in and keeps you guessing at what's next. It never lets up, and every challenge felt fresh and it just makes you invested, due in part ofcourse, to the great chemistry and likable personas of the 4 mains As well as other interesting characters. Gon and killua vs netero was very funny. I love it when weaker characters have to try and take on a stronger one 2 v 1. Very fun and Gon got him to use his right hand in the end proving he is tenacious and never gives up and his resourcefulness using his shoe was clever. Still the gap between the boys and netero is gapingly apparent. Trial island was a better and much more interesting hunger games. Just awesome.
And Hisoka.... oh man... the first example of a character whose shown to be on a completely different level than the mains and almost everyone. Ilumi....woah, what are his goals, what is his connection to hisoka, is he stronger, how strong is he? Hmmm... burning questions i love it. Could talk for hours about this arc alone as i am sure i forgot a ton of stuff. Great first arc.
Killua's family arc..Zoldycks?? I think that's how you spell it. A good arc that helps flesh Killua out and introduces us to his big assassin family. Hate his mom but his dad and grandfather seem cool. I love the mains having to train with weighted vests just to get the "front door" open, that was great. And killua reuniting with gon and friends was emotionally satisfying. Solid arc short and sweet.
Heaven's Arena
My personal favorite arc I think. I am a sucker for fight tournaments and Sushi!! He's one of my favs. I mean Zushi. OSU! He's a lil trooper. When he was matched with Killua i thought okay he is tough but now he's gotta fight Killua. Oh man tough break. killua is on another level and is just destroying him easy but how tf is he still getting up? Killuas inner monologues i love. Then Zushi went into his Ren stance, cue one of the shows best tracks, and the look on Killua's face as the feeling reminded him of illumi. I knew shit was about to get real and Zushi knows something we don't. Then Rip headphone users Wing stops him loudly. We then get a passionate killua wanting to learn nen from wing so, now we are introduced to Nen but not quite, with a brief example being a display of wing's aura. I did like how killua turned into spiderman for a few seconds hanging from the walls. I did find it interesting when Wing said that nen shouldn't be taught to just anyone. As it carries with it risks and abuse in the wrong hands and providing an even more awesome example of its power potential when he sliced zushi's juice with paper. Poor Zushi, loses to killua and loses his juice in the same day. I loved him apologizing lol its fun seeing a lighter side of wing.
Anyway. When we are introduced to the real deal just wow....One of the most interesting and most complex power systems ever, which just opened up a whole new universe within hxh and that was merely basics!! So richly diverse and gets even deeper as the show progresses and gon and killua picked it up so quick!! 1 in 100mil indeed.
Hisoka...holy crap i did not expect him to show up. I legit thought it was illumi causing that aura at first, then the lady appeared, and i thought she must be a fighter? Or must be being controlled? then the card appeared and impaled the floor and i thought NO WAY. IS HE HERE??. Hisoka then appears behind her. And my face lit up big time. That was genius the way they did that. He is the kind of character who instantly shakes things up when they are around, and his mysterious and weird bad motherf**ker vibe just adds to this. He is just a game changer. He's so weirdly unhinged yet at the same time he's not. And this was the arc that made me fall in love with him. I also love his salsa theme. I might have possibly danced along with it whenever it played.
Kastro vs hisoka. A great battle and display of wits, and who is superior. I legit really thought kastro had a shot of beating hisoka until he lost his advantage and was defeated. Bungee Gum. He freaking had me. I thought him losing his arms were like a trick or something since hisoka didn't seem to care, and glittery stuff came out of them instead of lots of blood. Anyway what a genius hatsu. Nen Stitches?? further showing the power of nen and introducing us to a member of the phantom troupe reminding us that its the same group Kurapika is after. And Hisoka is posing as a fake member hmm?? Shit keeps unraveling and getting more interesting.
Learning Gyo and breaking down hisoka's fight. Killua and Gon wiping the floor with those three idiots who thought kidnapping Zushi as a threat would not come back to bite them on the ass. That was satisfying. Hisoka vs Gon!! What a fight. And gon getting a punch to the face and them some and returning the badge was a great callback. The best animation in the show up to this point. and Hisoka continues to prove he is a one of a kind character and im not even going to try to explain his freakish and weirdly strange "behavior" and thoughts (lets just call it that) towards Gon. And not to go unannounced. Killua and Gon's friendship very subtly growing stronger throughtout this arc and their competitiveness with each other was great to see.
I know some probably pass this arc off as just a means to an end pit stop, with it just being a place to teach us and the mains nen and is a weaker arc but i think it is so much more than that. I wana know who tf the floor masters are by the way. Who else HAS BEEN, a floor master? Who created heaven's arena?
Wing and Zushi though as two new characters, i loved them, and wish we got more of them. They were only in 9 episodes with a brief phonecall but they left a lasting impression on me, especially Zushi, instantly lovable, he was very endearing, humble and quite funny, i even found myself saying Osu around the house much to my dog's displeasure. And everytime Gon and killua learned a technique quickly, when zushi had to train months for it, he would be so animately dispondent.. He really did fit in well as a temp main i think, hanging out and training with killua and gon, he was a good addition, even if he did still have his baby teeth coming in. I think he's definitely a goldmine of potential..., strength and character wise honestly, and in the future i think he could fit in well as one of the mains, and as a manipulator to round out the group. And I just really wana find out what hatsu he creates!! as it is an odd one for him being a manipulator but also a cqc fighter. I want to have his character expanded upon aswell like, where is he from, where tf are his parents, how and when did he meet wing? did wing abduct him? is he actually an orphan? What was his upbringing like? When did he start training? what are his goals and ambitions?, could zushi pass the hunter exam on the spot now that he knows nen? Why did wing choose zushi as a student and why is he teaching him nen? Is wing pro child labor? does Zushi get all of his winnings or does some go to wing? Did wing end up replacing zushi's juice? was zushi able to finish that book with a page missing?
I also think the contrast of zushi(hardwork) compared to gon and killua (raw talent) was interesting. It showed us different paths to achieving milestones and how even irl, some people are just born with a headstart with freaky genetics, and some have to train hard just to reach that level. I respect when a series draws parallels like that even in a series that isn't entirely based in reality. It would really be a cool payoff to see eventually Zushi catching up to and even surpassing gon and killua one day to prove that yes, hard work can match and even trump raw talent. I really hope he comes back in the future. I also like that Zushi saying Osu! Stuck with Gon and Killua to the point where they adopted it fitting in perfectly as wings two new students.
To my other favorite arc. Yorknew City!!
Man...KURAPIKA. This entire arc was Kurapika's show and proved easily that he could be, THE MAIN, and i mean a SOLO MAIN. He was that compelling. and that he can carry an Arc by himself, not that this arc needed carrying like..at all. Im very sure he also elevated himself up everyones favorite character list after this arc. There is so much to take in with this arc. Easily the biggest one so far with lots of juggling of characters, and plot points etc.
Gon and killua meeting up with leorio again was satisfying minus kurapika. Finally the Introduction of the phantom troupe and how they added a whole new fresh layer to the show as antagonists, they hadn't even displayed their combat skills yet they already give off a "bad mfs" vibe.
Kurapika getting a job as a mafia bodyguard as a cover to hide his true intentions was interesting and also introduced us two several new characters, one being melody! More on her later. After an awesome and brief little fight in the mansion we meet the head of the mafia security. Kurapika gets a job and he is on his way to finding out more about his peoples scarlett eyes. I loved this direction as it not only gives furthers kurapika's purpose and motivation that was revealed at the start of the series, but it brings it back and puts it front and center.
Uvogin vs the mafia. the first phantom troupe member to show us a level of power rivaling hisoka's. Which is fitting even if hisoka is a fake member. But to see Uvogin brutalize mobs of mafia men and tank conventional arms and sniper fire like its nothing is perhaps the most impressive display of domination and power in the show so far, showing us...this is just one member of the troupe. Awesome animation throughout and the rest of the troupe just non-chalantly playing cards was a nice comical touch.
Melody calming Kurapika once he found out he was a member was a neat way to show us her special nen abilities. The shadow beasts were interesting but were a letdown after their initial "we got you uvogin" moment. They never had him really. Then holy crap uvogin gets taken by kurapika's chain. We know kurapika learned nen but to the extent of coming up with an ability to restrain a troupe member?? That was a cool moment. Machi's nen tracker just another example of the genius that is nen and being creative with it. That cloak attack on nobunaga was funny. It kind of reminded me of piedmon's cloak attack from digimon adventure.
Hisoka hiding in plain sight as a fake member of the troupe is awesome. They have no idea. Kurapika striking a deal with hisoka after a lengthy dialogue detailing how the troupe functions as a unit. Don't know if i mentioned this but one of the hxh's strongest aspects are the characters and the dynamic between characters. And i could listen to hisoka chat idly all damn day.
I loved the money making antics with gon, killua and leorio who then all were serious when they figured out that the troupe is behind attacks on the auction. The show is perfect at changing the tone on a dime, and it always feels natural.
Fast forward to Kurapika absolutely annihilating Uvogin after explaining why his chains are so strong and that even more he is a SPECIALIST when his eyes turn SCARLETT!! That was a holy shit epic moment .
Introduction of Zepile. Another likeable character who was kinda disappointingly shortlived and only makes a few more appearances here and there.
Gon and killua tailing machi and nobunaga was tense. One more thing this show does extremely well is tension. Especially when they get made by two members who were tailing THEM without them knowing. Although i suspected that there were more troupr members around than just two. Considering how fast and strong, gon and killua are shown to be up until this point, there encounter and trying to escape the troupe was a scary wake up call that they are just no match for them and are completely out of their league. Killua's little "fight" with phinks by the way was awesome. Killua's display of resourcefulness and superior fighting ability to gon shines if only for a few seconds. Phinks by the way. He's looks really cool. That tracksuit....man he's got some style. Looks like it could be a gucci tracksuit. Another thing that should be mentioned is character head monologues. They are great. Especially killua's. And especially in tense situations like this. I love getting into a characters head and knowing what they are thinking. Hxh does this often and very well.
Gon and Killua finally meeting the troupe and with Hisoka there, i thought yep killua knows to play dumb but when gon yelled out HEY! i thought oh no, gon you idiot! But he pulled off a good save pointing out him recognizing murasaki. But the real tension came with pakunoda revealing she can and has read their memories which was crazy, so naturally i thought shit they will know the chain user is kurapika. The fact that an ability that can read just a simple memory, can provide such lethal information and through just the sheer luck of not knowing kurapika is the chain user, saved kurapika.
I really liked nobunaga as a character to the point where he comes off as much more honorable than the rest of the troupe which makes me think why he is even a member of such a bad crowd. Gon and killua's escape using ostomy was a nice callback to Zepile teaching them.
Zeno and Silva being brought in to take down the troupe..holy crap does the show tease! After they showed up i was clamoring for them to show us how strong they are coming from the assassin world and how they measurr up to the troupe. Then my clamoring abruptly stopped after the entire scene where the phantom troupe display their amazing power and work together as a cohesive unit with devastating results slaughtering hundreds upon hundreds with the sound being drowned out by the amazing music and chrollo monologuing, topped off with stellar animation. What a fantastic scene. Hisoka not partaking in any of it was interesting.
Fast forward and FINALLY. We get a reunion kind of, over the phone with killua gon and kurapika, minus leorio. I knew when this happened that this is was the beginning of all the characters converging together.
Then holy shit....Zeno and Silva vs Chrollo. I was giddy as hell for this fight. Sure we didn't know a lot about all 3 of these characters but that was part of the excitement. What are they capable? We had only seen some of chrollo's power up to this point and holy shit was it making me question, damn so he might be stronger than hisoka. and we knew he had to be mega powerful to be the leader and then some. Zeno and silva only have their rep as assassins and that is a great rep. we have seen nothing of their abilities but for silva to have fought chrollo before and to go up against him now even after telling killua to never face a superior opponent shows that silva is definitely a bad mf. Then there is zeno who has bad mf slapped onto his forhead and he is the father of silva. Yep. I knew this was gana be an epic fight. There is a certain vibe some characters bring to a scene the moment they show up. And these three in the same room are no exception. And shit it delivered. Gotta be my favorite fight so far. It didn't have this long build up but it didn't need to. Zeno and Silva entering through different doors was the perfect entrance. Zeno and silva each with a focused stare, fixed on Chrollo whilst chrollo's face is devoid of expression all while ominous music plays. This show sets the stage(no pun intended) for fights perfectly.
the way they walk forward toward each other and then a split second later begin moving moving around at rapid speed, shows neither is screwing around. Straight to the action and what an incredible short exchange. Silva and zeno's teamwork is excellent, chrollo is a freaking beast dodging and blocking both of them and even managing to graze silva's face at the end of the exchange. Both sides are the real deal. At this point i start to think shit...chrollo got the upperhand after that exchange. Is stronger than both of them?? Zeno immedately breaking down and figuring out how exactly chrollos abitlity works and the conditions he must meet without even seeing it in action and only after a brief fighting exchange shows what an absolute master zeno is. Zeno basically straight up saying to silva, "when i pin him down, kill us both, i don't care yolo". What an old badass mf Zeno is. To sacrifice himself so readily that is a warrior right there and to think he's only apeared in a handful of scenes in the show. More Zeno please. That nen dragon zeno summoned was just epic but for chrollo to evade it and track silva at the same timep, makes Chrollo a beast. A 2v1 and he's still managing to keep up with them until he gets trapped in the nen dragons jaws. And jesus those barrage of punches from zeno right to the faaace of chrollo!! then cueing silva to use what i can only describe as a ren version of some type of ki blast wave like from dragonball. Whatever its called it is f**king awesome. This type of raw display of offensive nen power from both zeno and silva is the most impressive so far and i thought no way, i mean sure this could kill him but doesn't hisoka still need to fight him surely hes not dying?? And then....ILLUMI. holy crap. Doing hisoka a solid. Silva and zeno end the assassination and share an interesting exchange of words. What stuck out was "it would be a different story if you were actually trying to kill me" don't know what he really meant there. That stare exchange though between silva and chrollo as silva exits. Rematch please.
And yep. everyone parts different ways, even through different doors as if nothing happened and chrollo lives to fight another day assuming had the attack actually got him? But it was kinda unclear. They didnt show it. They just emerged from the rubble. Anyway chrollo holding his own against two pros at once though. Makes me wonder if he could take silva in a 1v1 this time? Another time maybe. Anyway epic fight great animation. Very intense. Chrollo napping after was great.
Cut to Kurapika and everyone buying into the nen corpses of the troupe. An extremely lovable character i haven't addressed yet... i absolutely love Melody. Constantly consoling and checking on kurapika's wellbeing. Stopping him multiple times from making reckless decisions and their overall chemistry together is really elevated this arc even more. She is also too damn sweet and precious to be in this show and when she told kurapika her story, I felt soo damn bad for her. I really want her to get a happy ending because she deserves it. And her warm comforting smile and soothing voice. Her nen ability. What a perfect fit. She is arguably one of the biggest mvps of the yorknew arc absolutely and is by far the nicest and most wholesome character in the entire hxh universe. Love her.
Also leorio and zepile hanging out like they have been friends for ever after just meeting for 5 minutes, as i knew they would get along was great. Ofcourse they have natural brochemistry. And i did think it was funny killua pointing out how leorio isn't old enough to drink reminding us that even though he looks late 20s early 30s intentionally so, hes still in his late teens lol.
Finally in person, the OG mains are back together again, it felt like yesterday when they made that promise to meet up in yorknew city. Anyway reunions like this and with these characters, i can eat it up all day. Even if it was shortlived and straight to business soon after.
Kurapika saying how he wishes he could say the same about leorio's presence and that it hasn't any gotten stronger that cracked me up. Poor Leorio lol.
Kurapika telling the rest of the mains about her nen contract and the troupe situation was very important, but considering as far as they know the troupe is dead, i was selfishly hoping for a little bit of downtime with the 4 of them. I like Pakunoda's ability being brought up again as an ongoing threat and how dangerous memories and information stored in someones head can be, and how screwed everyone would be if she read them again. i wonder what else she can do HMMM...
I loved the fortune reading scene. Any phantom troupe scene is gold really. the interplay between the members and specfically when there is tension. I often wonder what the phantom troupe heirarchy after chrollo is, if there is any besides, members having specific roles. Seems like there is some, sometimes.Nobunaga sort of challenging chrollo was interesting. Just wanted to point out more than 60% of this show is dialogue between characters and i wouldnt have it any other way. I watch this show and love it for a lot of reasons but mainly for the characters and the dialogue is made even better because of this.
It was nice to see kurapika calm and kind of content among friends, but his finding out the troupe's bodies were fake from hisoka was a big YES!! moment. His motivation is back but at what cost? Its been compelling watching his character walk the path of revenge but at the same time i don't want the troupe to get killed because i kind of like them. Im rooting for both of them i guess but i also am dying to see hisoka vs chrollo to. hisoka could have given him a heads up the bodies were fake way earlier by the way.
Phantom troupe are from Meteor city?? I hope we get to see this place for real. And how does leorio know so much about it. The world of hxh keeps getting bigger. Its tricky to keep up sometimes!!
Hisoka has the best pokerface ever. And when he changed his fortune on a dime and the way he micromanages every little detail so things go the way he wants. Goddamn he is sooo cool. He thinks of everything. And nobunaga drawing his sword on hisoka...i would love to have seen this fight. He didn't seem the least bit concerned when nobunaga threatened him or when other members have. This could be just his pokerface at work but we have never seen a serious hisoka. And we haven't seen much of nobunaga at all. My money is on hisoka though. Hisoka geniusly controlling the fortune narrative was risky but paid off taking the heat off him and getting chrollo to stay, but i wonder, the way chrollo stares at hisoka, i often wonder if he can see through his act, or knows of his plan and that he wants to fight him.
Killua reminding gon of the real reason they are here which is for greed island, also reminded me!
The mains now teaming up against the troupe. Kurapika explaining how his chains work and gon saying "im not sure what any of that means" was quite funny as that is so me sometimes. I love it. i also loved Killua and Leorio sneaking back in to overhear everything despite the risks. You are damn right they did. They are all in this together. Kurapika saying he has been blessed with great friends.. right in the feels. This was a great moment and a much needed one.
Kortopi is an interesting little guy and his ability to create 50 fake hideouts is pretty damn impressive aa well as being able to traclk any and all fake copies is just insane conjuring power.
Melody being brought along as a temp main to aid killua is really cool. Supporting characters getting time to shine im all for. Stakes getting really high now with all of these characters converging.
I really liked killua and melody's dialogue exchange as they were trailing the troupe to and melody being able to distinctly differentiate each person's footstep is amazing. Kurapika's disguise is great. Really pulls it off well for obvious reasons.
That split second of kurapika and gon running into the 3 troupe members so quickly whilst they had gyo activated and gon and killua giving themselves up covering for kurapika but getting caught themselves. Well thats gon and killua for you!
Squla's death was sad. It didn't have to happen. I hope those dogs end up okay. Pakunoda finding out kurapika is the chain holy crap things keep getting worse and pakunoda having the ability to shoot memory bombs to transfer memories reveals another layer of clever nen abilities.
The entire hotel scene was just excellent and full of tension and excitement. Leorio actually being useful and giving killua and gon a coded messenge disguised as leorio being leorio to adjust to the dark ahead of time was smart and the way killua dislocated his joints so quickly to escape. Dude is a beast. Their escape was brief but it provided that 1 second gap kurapika needed who managed to pull off such an incredible chrollo heist in that time. I would love to have seen it from kurapika's pov. Just insane.
So the troupe has the boys and the mains have chrollo. A stalemate. The entire phone negotiation between them was excellent and melody continues to prove her abilities are awesome as well. Phinks joking around and getting pummelled by machi and nobunaga was funny. Its nice to see a lighter side of the troupe if only for a brief moment. Kurapika also happens to be an expert negotiator and i have to say i have loved the recent focus on pakunoda's character and i actually started to feel a bit sorry for her. Also seeing the troupe bicker when chrollos gone was interesting and i was starting to think, they aren't really gana turn on each other are they?? Cue shizuku knocking out nobunaga for the best.
I would love to see phinks vs nobu though.
Kurapika thinking of every possible contingency for this deal. And hisoka asking illumi for help?? and saying he's known him a little longer than chrollo. I'd love to see flashbacks to all this. I wana know what illumi's goals are and where he fits into everything. I guess ill find out in the future.
It was very intense when kurapika was outlining her demands and i kinda felt sorry for pakunoda just looking so dispondent. She wants more than anything to get chrollo back. And melody definitely conveyed this perfectly with her inner monogue. Chrollo losing his nen though...damn. hisoka's gana be pissed.
Troupe once again fighting amongst each other over what they should do and its totally understandable. But phinks and feitan don't know what pakunoda knows and i loved when gon of all people explained to them pakunoda's reasonning and got pissed about it. Gon doesn't get angry often but when he does he has a good reason for it and he means it. I love that about him. I do love shalnark's constant analysis. He seems like such a nice guy. Too nice to be hanging around with the troupe almost. And franklin telling them like it is was great. They are a team in the end.
I did love phinks and gon throwing shalnarks device back and fourth and him yelling don't break it lol.
Hisoka showing up once again is always fun and Hisoka having illumi stand in as a double was clever but i would have liked to have seen how the switch was done without anyone noticing.
Exchange was quick and easy and without much hassle save for hisoka's little request. Oh man poor hisoka and his facial expression was hilarious.
Pakunoda's walk back in the rain and her saying meow back to the cat was really sweet. Naturally im starting to really like her a lot. Her last words and death were really sad and well done. Shooting the founding members with her bomb as a final fairwell. And seeing the troupe member's reactions and with the music . Really great scene.
Now back to getting greed island! Gon, killua look fresh in their suits and zepiles back! and man did i let out a big OH F**K when feitan and phinks spotted them. The way gon and killua gtfo'd even with a headstart and how feitan and phinks caught up to them so quickly like it was nothing was hilarious.
Phinks revealing a little too much after feitan gives him a look. And ofcourse theres people than can remove someone elses nen inside another.
Chrollo saying east it is..., is meteor city that way? Or somewhere else. Hmm.
Pakunoda's memory scene with gon and killua popping up in phink's head and gon and killua explaining why they just don't run. Saying they don't want their friend to become a murderer and phinks saying paku was thankful to both gon and killua hit all the right notes with me. Its moments like that, that make me love the characters and the show. Cue an epic freeze frame and the very last time we will see and hear that epic outro. Fantastic arc.
Now for greed island.
I have probably the least amount to say about this arc. Straight off the bat the main crew going their seperates was sad but ofcourse they will meet again right! Leorio telling melody to look after kurapika was so sweet. Leorio plays it cool but he really cares. Gon and killua starting to develop special techniques was exciting it was about time though and ofcourse killua's is electricity based. Very epic and symbolic of his childhood, and how hes turning the abuse he took into a weapon. and a very awesome if brief return of wing and zushi!! Zushi looks to be on the 100th floor now. Thats great and all but how about taking the training wheels off and catching up faster come on zushi. Wing giving gon advice though was really cool. Its just great seeing old characters return and i do hope both of them return in the future, i want to see an older zushi!! and i want bisky and wing to reunite!! Now Greed island overall was a very good and extremely fun arc. I am a gamer but am not the biggest rpgist, and i was initially disappointed that it seemingly was all about card collecting. i soon realized NOPE. So much more to it than that. The reveal of greed island being a real place didn't suprise me. I suspected it might be real but wasnt sure since gamey elements like npcs were inside but considering that when people die inside, they really are dead, that told me that with real consequences like rl death, greed island must be real. If it wasn't, why would people who die in a seemingly virtual game, die for real.
Wana get this out of the way, i think genthro was the worst villain in the series. The whole bombers thing, i think if you were to take them out, it would be an improvement. Im trying to think if you took them out, would it effect the story. And really it wouldn't. I just couldn't bring myself to care about him anyway. He really just reminded me of fma 03 kimbley. Thankfully the arc wasn't about him really at all. To me it was about gon and killua's relationship and how they rely on each other. They carried this arc really and bisky to(oh and i will get to her) gon saying killua was glad he's here and that even better, he's glad he met him in the first place hit me right in the feels. Killua brushing it off as he does and then monolguing saying gon's got it backwards, and that he's glad he met HIM, hit me right in the feels even more and it hit home with me because i know exactly what he means when he says that. Meeting gon was the best thing to ever happen to him. Because he met gon, he is living a life that is better than it ever could have been as an assassin. Just a fantastic moment that strengthened their bond even more.
Now to bisky. I thought here we go, im gana not like her, she looks like a typical girly anime character, thats going to be annoying or useless. How did she even make it into the game. But nope. Complete opposite of all that in the best way possible. I love her short temper. I must have loved her after just a couple of pieces of dialogue came out of her mouth really. Finding out she was WING's master??? Awesome. Flashback to this would be awesome!! Anyway gon and killua's training under her was definitely one of the best things about this arc. Bisky just made this arc even greater. I loved her. Such a chaotic personality and a perfect foil for killua who constantly gets put in his place which never happens really. I must have lost count the amount of times she punched them into the air. Bisky's display of power as well was just insane. Another character on another level who happens to be their 2nd master. Bisky is definitely badass but how much hmmm. The intense training session and the reveal of even more types of nen. Just fantastic. Might have to brush up on it all though! seeing gon and killua get progressively stronger was satisfying and bisky testing them constantly to see how fast they can read the nen number with gyo and instructing them to do push ups like a drill sargeant was funny. Her teaching methods sort of reminded me of toph's from avatar. It was also great to see gon and killua bring back saying Osu! Zushi and wing would be proud.
Not to mention when killua went back to do the hunter exam like a high level character returning to the start area, and proceeded to one shot everyone INCLUDING ZEPILE. And got a license on the spot. That was funny. Killua did my man zepile dirty.
One of my favorite parts about this arc though, not counting gon, killua and bisky, is hisoka joining the mains and the entire dodgeball part. I loved every second of that. I can't even begin to describe how fun and intense it was. Hisoka, gon and killua's teamwork was just tremendous. I could watch the three of them teaming up all damn day. That creative 3 person combined team attack strategy of theirs was just awesome! I was thinking a few times though. could hisoka probably win it all by himself? Just seeing hisoka in such a fun setting with the main characters gave me the biggest smile on my face.. Seeing gon's official attack finally was amazing. such a cool moment. He has come so damn far. And progressed so much.
Fast forward to them taking on the bombers. bisky showing her true form. It's Extremely bizaare and unexpected but badass! And crap she's even stronger than her nen form form which is strong as hell by default. But how strong is true form bisky?? I would love to see a five way fight with hisoka, zeno, true form bisky, chrollo and silva. Holy crap though...she's 57 but uses nen to look young. I wonder if this puts stress on her body though and if she maintains it all day everyday and has maintained it ever since she used nen to make her self appear younger for the first time. Hmm.
Gon outsmarting genthro and beating him was satisfying. He deserved worse but gon know's best. Anyway Gon wins the quiz and gets to the palace. Finding out the name of greed island comes from ging and his friends names and that gon gets to keep and bring back three cards...wow. i immediately thought get the ACCOMPANY card man until it was said only specified slot cards only but wait...
I thought it was a nice reveal that they were both his dads friends and the name greed island comes from the letter in their first name. The fact that ging brute forced his name change was quite funny. Ging kinda sounds like sort of a dick after hearing that and he did leave gon behind as well. Anyway. I loved bisky once again being left out of killua and gons conversations and her hammering them for it. her voice actor nails the yell voice.
The other reveal of nigg being ging and coming to greed island with gon was interesting but at what point did he decide to leave gon after greed island. Did ging intentionally bring gon to greed island knowing and predicting that future gon will figure it all out that he was there with his dad originally, and that, nigg was the clue to finding him.
Gon telling killua hes gana introduce him to his dad and telling him hes his best friend was sweet. Killua getting flustered and brushing it off is always funny. And bisky crying. Im really going to miss her. I was seriously let down when bisky turned down coming with them. I would LOVE to have seen her stick to being a main and helping them find gon's dad. So that sucked. We better see her again. But i wonder where she would go though, her work in greed island was finished so... Im thinking heaven's arena maybe to help wing train zushi....ive no idea really what else she would do and where she would go. Don't know much about her at all sadly and would have liked to have seen her stick around. She better come back.
Anyway her saying goodbye to them was great and one final osu! She was for damn sure proud of them.
Overall a really good arc that served as a fitting breather after the YNC arc. And carried brilliantly by gon, killua and bisky with an assist by hisoka. Who's hopes of fighting chrollo are in the hands of a nen exorcist. That fight is going to happen and i can't wait. I was also actually suprised with the phantom troupe showing up that they didn't once run into gon or killua in GI. Not that they needed to though.
What else is there to say that hasn't already been said. This show has been a revelation and has been pretty damn tremendous so far. Its not perfect but even masterpieces aren't flawless and its on its way to that territory. The vast array of lovable characters, each of them fleshed out to varying degrees, each with their own goals and motivations. The dialogue and writing. Hisoka hisoka hisoka!! Leorio's charm, Kurapika's earnestness, killua's and gon's broship, the dynamic between the mains, the phantom troupe who are compelling villains. the fleshed out world building. The nen power system. The incredible art and animation. Togashi's art is just excellent. And his character designs are among the best, so unique, so diverse and so eye popping and memorable right down to Zepile's epic eyebrows although Zushi's eyebrows give Zepile's a run for their money. The phenomenal soundtrack elevating every moment whether big or small. Light or dark. Exciting or intense. Triumphant or hopeless. The narrarator who i just love! Somehow he makes it work with the narraration. And the dub voice acting is just excellent across the board. Ive gone through 70+ eps but it doesn't feel like it at all. Its been a breeze to watch. 60+ eps left and im at the point where i realize, ill never be able to watch this for the first time ever again.
I don't expect anyone to read this much text this is merely just an appreciation post with my overall thoughts thus far and i noticed it turned into a recap as well oh. I think of this post as me just scrawling on a toilet stall wall.
Now its onto the next arc!
If you made it this far i envy you!
Thanks, Osu!
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2020.07.04 03:48 Wastemaster24 AITA for not being able to help with my partner's recent trauma

So me and my partner are in a sort of long distance relationship. We go to universities in different cities but their uni is in my hometown so we see eachother often at least we did pre rona. Before all this coronavirus stuff started my partner's pet staffie bit a Hermes delivery driver and because of incidents that's had happened only a few months before they were already on a warning from the police so in response they had the dog put down to stop them possibly being arrested. They adopted the dog from a shelter but she[the dog] had bad owners previously and was taken away from her mother early which results in dogs not growing and developing mentally properly. So the dog had a lot mental issues which resulted in her acting violently to strangers.
My partner is mildly autistic and can list over 100 dog breeds and knows a lot about dogs. Over the last 3 months my partner every now and then will send me a depressing message about how the dog being put down was their fault and I'd say she was mistreated before you got her and she had to be put down otherwise you would've got a criminal record harming any future job prospects post university. But as the months have gone by the same discussion arises and I make the same points over and over. Now I should say I like to consider myself a pretty stable person I went through a period of severe depression but I got better and spent some time to focus on myself however that was only 2 years ago so I'm still working through and figuring myself out but generally I'm okay. So this dog discussion comes up every now and then, I make my piece saying it's not your fault ya da ya da and my partner has started saying I'm wrong and every point I make they say I'm wrong and it's beginning to make me doubt myself which is triggering anxiety. An analogy I thought of was imagine you're doing a quiz and you got one question wrong. You're pretty sure which question you got wrong so you try again but you still got one wrong so it starts to make you doubt every answer in the quiz. The fact my partner is saying my advice is wrong is causing me to doubt myself and everything I've done to make me better which triggers my anxiety so I told my partner I don't like these conversations where I keep making the same points and you dismiss them and now I feel really guilty. Like I want them to feel confident and that they can talk to me but I don't want every discussion to be me giving advice and them saying no it's wrong as it causes me anxiety and I fear may result in my depression relapsing. Am I the asshole as I can't listen to the problems of someone I love without my own unresolved issues cropping up. A part of me can't help but think our relationship may not be healthy as we basically feed eachothers worries and anxiety what are all of your thoughts?
This is my first time post in this subreddit but I just feel so guilty and don't know if I'm being selfish or not aha.
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2020.07.03 22:01 bestupdator "WIBTA if i failed a Juniors probation period because he's reported me several times to the bosses?"

repost, original post by u/GayLadThrowaway
WIBTA = Will I be the asshole
 
This is a weird one.
I work in a digital agency, we hired a 19 year old to pick up and learn how our business works for our digital sector. I'm the manager of the digital department, i have a team of about 8 members, we're a close group as most of us have been working together for over 5 years. I've been here for 8 and i've been with the company since it was only 6 of us. We're now a business of over 70 people.
This 19 y/o that we hired is a big clients son. My boss who is good friends with the client offered him the job (subject to probation period) without us posting anything online for people to apply. I am the one that trains him up and i will be the one to approve his probation period, but i'm not sure if hes aware of that as my boss is the one that hired him.
This 19y/o was meant to start in March but then lockdown hit so we pushed it back a month, we thrived during the lockdown and thus needed more resource, so we took him on in April - It was challenging training someone through Microsoft Teams but he was picking up things very quickly, i'd say that we spent a good 2 hours a day on a call together. We got on pretty well and i liked him.
After the first 2 months, he was fitting in well and it was all good. Our digital department had a quiz night a few days before we were planning on coming back into the office. Since a lot of the digital guys know my partner, i invited my partner to the quiz. I'm guessing that the new Junior didn't know i was gay as i'm considered very "straight passing". The quiz went well and we all had a laugh.
Now, last week we were in the office and i immediately got pulled into the the HR's room. I know most of the HR people well and some of us are friends outside of work. "Someone" had reported me of trying to make a pass at them on Microsoft Teams meetings. They were time stamped and its very clear that it was the Junior. I told them that nothing at all happened and i didn't make a pass at all (The HR lady knows me well, and knows i'm not into anyone younger than me at all). It was kind of left at that.
Yesterday, i got called into the HR office again, this time i was reported for the same thing but i was also reported for leaving the office early on friday (half hour early, but i confirmed with my boss before hand). I'm now under investigation for sexual harassment, although my HR representative said i shouldn't worry as she doesn't think anything will come of it since i literally haven't done anything.
Now, i'm not meant to know who this person is but i know 100% that its the Junior who is reporting me (my HR friend heavily hinted to me). This is his last week of probation, a lot of the digital guys aren't fond of him, and i can fail his probation based on "Failure to work collaboratively" but he's a pretty good worker. I'm not worried about the sexual harassment investigation since i have nothing to hide.
WIBTA for terminating his probation?
EDIT:
A colleague has found the Juniors twitter (same username as his instagram and same dp) where he has stated multiple homophobic tweets - one that was posted a week ago that seems possibly directed at.about me. This has gone into my document which i will be showing to my boss on Thursday, i have asked for the HR rep that is handling the case to join.
I'm feeling a lot better about this situation and feel like it will work out for the best for me.
EDIT 2:
So the title is stupid, i apologise for that, it definitely makes it seem like i'm failing him purely based on him going against me. Terribly worded.
EDIT 3:
Thank you everyone that replied. I will be taking a lot of these points seriously. I will let you know what happens tomorrow.
 
UPDATE
A thank you
First of all, i'd just like to say, thank you so much for all your kind words, messages, chats and comments etc.. I'm very grateful to all the helpful advice people shared and i took it all on-board. My post got WAY more attention than i thought it would, and without your help, i might have made some very silly errors.
What happened on Thursday?
I met with my boss at 10am along with the HR rep that was handling my case. Before i could even get started, my boss profusely apologised about the whole thing, he was made aware of it the day before by the HR department and was genuinely upset to hear it. Before i even asked to be relieved of the decision making on whether or not to keep the Junior, he said that he has handled it and i will no longer have any connection to him. What a sigh of relief that was!
A few anonymous colleagues of mine (from my department) reported the Junior on the same day i posted on here, he was part of a small sports group chat that some of them have and the junior referenced to "the fag of the office" which i was greatly defended by other colleagues. This had HEAVILY helped my situation. I was about to present the twitter screenshots to the boss and the HR rep but was told i didn't need to as they had already removed the Junior from the company and deemed the reports against me as false as he could not provide any tangible proof when challenged.
I asked how this will play out with the (ex-)junior being a high paying clients son? My boss said that he would be speaking to him later that day, they have a very close relationship inside and outside of the professional world and he will be defending me to the end, he isn't worried about the client pulling out as there are firm contracts involved. I feel so very grateful to be in a place where i am appreciated and my loyalty and character is known throughout the office and they didn't even doubt me for a second. I feel blessed.
My HR friend
A lot of you said how disgusted you were at the professionalism of my HR friend who "heavily hinted that it was the junior" who reported me. I relayed your concerns to her and she agrees, it was very bad of her do it. She has only been in HR for 1 year and still has a lot to learn and grow in her role. I told her that friendships shouldn't come in front of her career. She is actively trying to improve herself. So thank you for helping another great colleague in my office.
Final words
Please let me just say a big thank you to everyone again for your support. It really helped. Homophobia will not prevail as long as we have people like all of you in the world.
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2020.07.03 21:17 rhonariego Failed at 75, Passed at 60 🌺

I’m an international nurse, 4th time test taker and passed in 60 questions.
What I did differently?
🌺 I meditated 2 weeks prior to my test, I used Headspace. I wake up at 4am, do my morning routine, meditate for 10 mins before studying. I learned that anxiety will never go away and you have to treat it as your ‘FRIEND’. Mark Klimek said ‘I will never tell you not to be nervous but I want you handle your anxiety’. Meditation helped me a ton because I arrived at the testing center with a light heart.
🌺 Don’t feed your EGO. Tests scores from Uworld are just numbers. When you answered incorrectly on a test bank, tell yourself “I RATHER GET IT WRONG NOW, THAN GETTING IT WRONG ON NCLEX” — on my NCLEX there was an exact same question on Nurse Achieve I got wrong and so I confidently answered it on NCLEX. Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s ok to get low scores, it’s better to study the wrong answers with their rationales.
🌺 Don’t hate Math, SATAs, exhibits, drag&drop, dele/prio, etc. instead LOVE them. When you see them that means you are loved. Why? Because when you get them it means you are answering a high level question. Mark Klimek said: “I don’t need you to Ace the exam, I need you to get to the high level questions” — on my NCLEX day I prayed for hard questions, coz I know the only way I will pass is if I get the high level ones. I think the highest level question I got asked who needs further teaching in SATA form. 😅 by the way, I didn’t get Math, I know that Math is a low level. But 3 fails ago I was scared of it but this time I was ready for it but didn’t get it.
🌺 How to memorize LABS, Cranial Nerves, Developmental stages, etc? Write them 5-10x a day before & after you study. I promise you it will be imbedded in your brain that you won’t need to write them before you start your exam. When you do your quiz banks make sure to write it whenever you encounter a question that asks for it.
🌺 How to memorize & understand diseases? Make your own mnemonics. Draw on the word, link the words, mind map, flash cards. Make a story out of the love-hate relationship of electrolytes. It’s nice to always repeat what you have studied 2 days prior, it’ll boost your memory.
🌺 Tip on a SATA is to only answer what you know. Don’t add what you think ‘might’ be right. That’s why content is very important. SATA questions for me, is either you know it or you don’t. So study what you don’t understand. I just go to youtube, I recommend: SimpleNursing, Osmosis, CrashCourse-Anatomy.
🌺 I only study 2-4hrs/day coz I have a toddler and just study when I can. I prepared for 2 months. 1st month: I did content using my old Rachel Allen notes 5 yrs ago, Remar DVD package, the internet and youtube. 2nd month: I did Uworld and Nurse Achieve, CAT everyday until it expired. I highly recommend Nurse Achieve for practice and Uworld for best rationales.
🌺 Listen to Mark Klimek audios, he is a game changer. I am grateful for him. 🙏🏼
🌺 Throw your ABC’s away. Why? Beacause I felt the NCLEX uses it to trick us, thus getting more wrong. Make sure you read, analyze and scrutinize questions & CHOICES carefully. I say scrutinize because NCLEX tricks you with words, example: Sterile gloves vs clean gloves. Which one would you use when removing a dressing? It’s very simple but when they present it to you in SATA form you have to see what words they use to trick you.
🌺 Don’t treat NCLEX as a beast that you have to tackle and defeat. — I had a self realization that NCLEX is not a beast. NCLEX is Me. NCLEX is a safety & quality care exam. YOU as a nurse has to be one with it and not fight it. You have to understand that for you to pass it, you have to prove that you are a safe nurse that provides quality care to your clients. Remember the Moana movie? Tafiti is also the lava monster. You have to see the good in the NCLEX, you have to understand that this is YOU. Don’t fight it, be one with it.
🌺 Stop and ask yourself: WHY AM I HERE? Answer: Because YOU are meant to be here, you are meant to study and be a great nurse. Don’t give up. Pray and meditate. Eat healthy. Start your day right. Don’t touch your phone first thing when you wake up. Don’t over caffeinate. Remember that a blessing delayed is never denied. You got this!
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2020.07.03 10:32 dustymitchire Fresh, raw vent - ex partner leaving for good at 11am today

My ex of 16 months whom I lived with and had hopes of building a future with broke up with me on Sunday and booked a one way flight to Canada, the other side of the planet to me, which is leaving in 2 hours. She refuses to say she doesn’t love me, and that she’s going to Canada to be a better “her”.
We moved to Toronto together in January, and I had an awful time. We were in a car crash, it was hard to find jobs, I struggled making friends even though I usually am the more social one of the two of us. In March, she got a dream job in a brewery and made friends and felt like she’d found her place. Then Covid happened and we were suddenly uprooted back to Ireland. I was happy enough returning and she struggled with it mentally. Each time she would feel down I’d say stupid things like awk pick yourself up, we’re all in the same boat... etc etc. I didn’t know how to deal with her escalating depression. She doesn’t really have any friends at home, she would be close enough with her mum.
We had good days. I naively thought the last 3 months weren’t that bad. I was living with her again in her apartment, we did a lot of work to it together over this time and she would constantly say to me “we’re making this place our home”. My dog moved in as well, it was a little Covid bubble. She became more and more reliant on me as the weeks went on and I really tried my best to be a support system for her, I sent her job opportunities here, when my friends were hosting a virtual quiz we played along, she came to my parents for dinner, I suggested things for us to do etc etc. Neither of us were working.
About 3 weeks ago her boss in Canada text her saying the brewery was opening again on the 2nd July and her job was there for her if she wanted. She mentioned it to me in conversation but didn’t say much.
On Sunday we were playing a quiz together and we got into an argument because my ex text me and it became awkward then I said a snide comment about one of her friends that she’d slept with before meeting me. Instead of keeping it going I went to bed. She came to me about an hour later sobbing saying she felt like she was being torn in two here. Half of her wanted to stay with me and half of her knew she desperately needed to go back to Canada to escape this depression. I told her she had to think of herself for once and do what was best.
The next night I was in my parents house and she text me at 2am saying she had booked her flight and was leaving on Friday. She would pack all my things up for me to collect on Wednesday. My whole world feels like it’s been shaken to the core. I usually think I’m quite strong and independent but i just didn’t see this coming whatsoever. I feel used almost, she has repeatedly said this wasn’t preplanned but it just all seems awful convenient. She also refuses to say she just didn’t want to be in the relationship anymore and still keeps up, even last night, that she loves me but just didn’t love how her depression was making her and thus me feel. There was no serious conversation about the move. She’s moving continent for god knows how long and I can’t do anything about it.
My world is crumbling around me and I’m just helplessly watching it unfold. She does not want me to join her in Toronto but still claims to love me, and I love her so how has this happened? She keeps saying it doesn’t feel like her, she’s in a dream state and the only thing she’s focusing on is getting on the plane.
I feel completely abandoned and left behind. My family and friends are at home but I’ve lived abroad on and off for the last 5 years. I will live abroad again, I want to settle somewhere different, she has always known this. But she said because I told her during lockdown I couldn’t move away anywhere until at least the new year that she panicked and knew she had to go right away when her depression was crushing her. She is an only child from a middle class family so money wasn’t a factor for her in travelling so suddenly. I couldnt go anywhere right now because I don’t have the funds. We also spoke about moving to France in the new year together and leaving Toronto behind, or t trying Canada again but this time Vancouver or somewhere different. Obviously that isn’t happening anymore.
I go through the motions every day, have a constant sick feeling in my stomach, and have ate a banana over the last 4 days. I never normally dwell on my feelings too much and yesterday I think I had a panic attack or something? I just thought of everything and it feels like my whole world has came crashing down, I couldn’t breathe and freaked out. She’s the one person I want to text when things go wrong but she is the reason for this all happening too. How you can live with someone and not sit them down before booking flights to the other side of the world in 5 days is beyond me.
I feel like the complete truth is being kept from me and I can’t handle it. How am I supposed to go on at home when everything I know here has been intertwined with my life with her. It hurts so bad. There has been no finality to it from her self in terms of her words, of course the relationship is over from her actions but she still texts me each day saying she loves me and she has to do this for her but it’s not a reflection on her feelings for me. Surely if you loved someone you wouldn’t abandon them?
Ahhh I just need to rant. I’ve never felt so low. No work to keep focussed and busy. I can’t eat, I can’t sleep and my mind can’t switch off from her for even a split second. I need to wise up ASAP.
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2020.07.01 15:54 No-Kaleidoscope3659 My long term girlfriend is suddenly not getting in touch and I am very, very worried?

My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly three years and we live apart in the UK, we usually talk or message multiple times each day and have done so ever since I can remember.
We last exchanged messages last night at 9pm UK time, it is now nearly 3pm and she is yet to get in touch, respond to messages or call. When I ring her, it goes straight to voice message and she went online on Facebook and didn't "see" or read any of my many messages exclaiming how worried I am.
I thought we had an excellent relationship, we laughed multiple times together everyday and often exchanged loving messages and conversations on the phone. Heck, we did a quiz last night together over zoom!!
She suffers from BPD. I am extremely worried, this has NEVER happened before.
It's got to the point where I've contacted her sister, cousin and our mutual friends to see if she is okay.
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2020.06.30 23:51 chancMeThrowRA2020 Reverse Chance (and advise) a stressed rising Junior

Throwaway so I don't dox myself on something I care about. So I feel like my application is strong score-wise but is really lacking in consistency and good ECs. Looking for advice on any good ECs or competitions that are not too late to get into to boost my chances. I've not really pushed for an insane application by doing something I don't like, but that means it's underwhelming. Legacy at Dartmouth on both sides.
Demographics: Hispanic American male, Eastern MA, very high family income (no need for aid)
What kind of school: the best I can get into, I really don't have a preference on size or location, only atmosphere and academics
Interesting Notes: Lived in Mexico and Brazil (about 5 years each) before moving more permanently to the US at 11, so maybe that's something?
Major: Undecided (Economics seems interesting, but scores point towards PreMed or BioMech Eng while ECs are more Engineering) I feel like I'd do whatever gives me the best chances
SAT: Projected >1500-1530 could probably hit >1550
GPA: 4.97 W
SAT II: Bio M: 800 (couldn't take anything this year due to COVID, hoping to take physics in fall or winter, will also take math 2 chem and Spanish end of this year)
Course load:
All honors except for chorus (art creds) and gym/study (mandatory semester each) freshman year
Same as above except for Intro to comp sci (no leveling) instead of study sophomore year.
No APs are really given at my school before Junior year if that means anything
Taking AP CS A, APUSH, Lang, and Spanish junior year, as well as honors Chem, AB precalc, Gym and either senior gym or a study (again, gym and study are semester)
Probably 5 APs senior (Lit, Gov, BC Calc, Physics or Chem (double period) , Stats) with gym/elective or another AP if I can do senior gym junior year
Essays/recs: probably my sophomore history teacher who is also one of my club advisors who I feel I have a great relationship with, and a teacher from junior year. Essays I haven't really given too much thought to, but will try to be authentic (unless not doing so would improve my chances)
ECs (this is where it gets ugly): Cross Country 9-12 (varsity sort of 10, probably 11/12). FTC Robotics (9, leadership on rookie team year 10, possibly the same for 11 and 12). Quiz Bowl 10-12, on team 11-12 almost certainly. Tutored 3rd and 4th grader at local elementary school. Possibly NHS 11, 12 (only years available). Newspaper 10, 11, 12 (probably)
ED/applying: my dream would be to apply ED to MIT, but that's unrealistic given my ECs. I'll probably apply ED wherever that boost could put me over the edge at a great school
I feel like my application is pretty disjointed and unimpressive, so I'm looking for ways to spruce it up whether through competitions, new ECs, or just doing an independent study. I'm at sort of a loss on how to get to ivy tier ECs. Unlike my parents, I haven't really overcome anything and need something to show I am worthy of good schools.
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2020.06.30 08:19 Putrid_Standard_4027 I (21F) want to email an old friend/guy (21M) I dated from high school that I broke ties with

Sorry this is my first post so bear with me if I make stupid mistakes, or don't get a certain reference/comment.
Background: Back in high school, I had a close friend in quiz bowl who liked me a lot. I knew for quite a bit because we had mutual friends that repeatedly pushed us to date. In our senior year (both of us were about 18) around christmas I stood him up for a double date that our two close friends set up. I realize now how awful and downright mean that was, even if that wasn't my intention. I wrote him a letter explaining why I wan't super interested in dating anyone bc I had seen a lot of bad relationships in my family. He was really sweet and said he understood, but offered to talk about things only if I liked. We still texted and started hanging out alone together over our christmas break. That's where we entered the awkward stage of not have a defined relationship. We hung out a few more times, and often connected really well emotionally, but nothing physical happened. There were definitely feelings I know I could not communicate at the time, but he was open and direct. The last time we hung out was our spring break of senior year. College decisions were on his mind and I had already commited to a state school. He was down to the same state school as me and an ivy. When we were talking about his options, he asked me where we stood because he felt it would influence his choice of schools. I said I didn't see our relationship going anywhere, partly because I did not feel ready but, I kept this to myself. I mainly told him I didn't want him follow me to a school, that he should make that decision only for himself, which I still stand by today. I mentioned stuff about being uncertain and feeling pressure from my friends to pursue the relationship. We were on a trail and coming near the parking lot. He said he still wanted us to be friends; I said I didn't think that was a good idea because I didn't think we could go back to that, and then we said bye. To this day I regret saying this and ending our friendship. I knew I could not go back to just being friends, that I did indeed have feelings, but was afraid to express them. I don't want to get into the can a guy and a girl really just be friends argument because I did not leave it open for discussion with him, and was too stubborn to even talk about it.
The next three years I think about him on and off, especially when I visit home. But then I go back to school, life gets busy, I forget. Fastforward to fall 2019, I go through a really rough semester. It brought back a lot of my insecruities and anxieties from hs. I address some of my anxiety issues and take less hours in the spring semester. I feel a lot a better about the present and accepting what is. One day I'm cleaning out an old inbox when I find his personal email. (I had stopped following him on social media, or deleted others we had ties on). I think about writing him an email, saying sorry and thanking him for being such a good friend even though I did not always reciprocate that. I draft it and debate sending it, and decide not to. Two days later my school announces we're going remote due to COVID-19 as most universities are doing the same. I never send it bc the timing suggests I have other intentions, but at the same time, with things completely flipping over in the past 3 months I want to put the past behind us. Reasonably, I could see him having a lot of doubt considering our history, and really not wanting to have any contact. I've asked current friends' advice, which is mostly along the lines of - as long as you're willing to accept his response, whether it's friendly, hostile, or just nothing, or - unless you 100% percent have no feelings toward him, it's not best to contact him. I realize these are all things to consider. I guess I feel like this is my one chance to fix things, but I'm not really sure what to do.
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2020.06.29 00:42 bullfrog669 How to tell my friend I really like her?

Hello dating helpers, I've a story to share and would appreciate an advice or two! :)
According to the rules, I'm a 24 yo male, she is a 27 yo female. I hope I didn't forget about any other rule.
Story goes:
I've met this one girl about 6-ish months ago on a pub quiz. We've then started a conversation on Facebook and have been chatting every day about our days, lives, everything. We've seen eachother on quizes and would have a conversation, but I'm somewhat of a chicken(and she is, according to her and her friends), so we didn't really move things forward. Then, two weeks ago she asked me out, for a dinner. We went, we talked, it was a date to wish for(no awkward silences, millions of topics, etc). We talked for hours until I had to drive her home because she had somewhere to be in the morning.
I'll try to keep it short, sorry.
Then she wanted to meet my dog, we took the dog for a walk, but she's old and was tired so 30 mins in the date, I told her I had to go home but asked her to come along. Left the dog at home, spent another 2 hours walking with her(got to her apartment twice, but kept walking, she insisted), very good date.
Then, tonight, she came from a weekend holiday with her friends and called me over(she called me over yesterday(for today), but today she said whe was tired but drank coffee to be able to hang out). I got there and we spent 3 hours talking until she fell asleep and I went home(she works in the morning).
For the last three days I've been planning on telling her that I really like her(and I do, she's a fantastic friend and a person, I really adore her company), but for some reason, couldn't find a moment tonight. And then she fell asleep and saw me out, couldn't do it with her asleep.
We talked about everything, people, relationships, I threw in a "I like that about you(honesty was that)", talked about hobbies, animals, family. She was talking about her hair and said "it's moist" and I said "that's what she said" and she genuinely laughed. She even told me about her nationality(which is a big deal in our country, shows she trusts me).
We really are good friends, I really like her and am in love with her but am afraid to tell her that.
Any advices?
Sorry for the long post, but I'd rather be rejected than see her with someone else, that would demolish me.
P. S. People don't believe me when I tell them she's not my gf. That's gotta mean something.
We're in our mid 20s.
Now that I think about it, my biggest problem is finding a right moment to say it to her. Should I wait for that moment or should I just tell her that? "Her-name, I've something to tell you. I like you, I like that and that about you and would like to be your boyfriend because that's how much I like you".
That was the plan for tonight(which, after 6 months of regular conversations, is not too soon, I think), but I was just enjoying her company too much to risk putting her in a awkward spot.

Any advices?
Thanks :)
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2020.06.28 16:54 zuklei Does anyone else have a hard time taking that step?

To leave I mean. I had a doctor’s appointment Friday and he gave me information on a place I could run to. There is some escalation because I’m standing up for myself and refuse to give him any sexual favors. Still forcing me (and when I say force I mean it’s easier to let it happen rather than to refuse and get triggered due to is reaction) to sleep in our bed, let him touch me affectionately, and say “I love you.” I don’t, by the way. But I don’t want to get screamed at. I don’t want to be insulted.
I did this checklist on the website of the place my doctor told me to go to.
https://imgur.com/a/EULNmu7
I never would have believed I was in danger but apparently I am. I’m still having trouble pulling the plug. Why? I don’t love him. I have a healthy long distance relationship that scored perfect on the loveisrespect.org quiz (I am not accepting judgement over this, by the way. You don’t have to like it, but this relationship is helping me so much).
I want to be gone. I’m still so scared to leave. I got married before I was fully an adult and have been with him more than half my life.
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2020.06.28 09:47 Ilikepieguy123 [Discussion] Some of my Favorite Moments of the Series/Underrated Moments

Here's a list of my favorite defining moments of Fairy Tail and what made them so great:
(These aren't in any particular order but I did list them by going through the series timeline)
And that's my list. Any thoughts? Also what are some 'underrated' or favorite moments of your own?
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